Hi Hllmyn, Absolutely,you should be able to find someone special. There are many men who find full-sized women attractive. Just work on playing up your assets. One time, when I had been having a "down spell" in terms of body image and self-esteem, I had to go to a party. I found a low-cut dress, piled on the make-up, wore high heels (which I almost never do). I got so much positive feedback from men on that one night that it really turned around my whole outlook and helped me get back on track with better eating and exercise habits. Best, Kathryn

Well, i'm that type of person who thinks there is someone for everyone (or I at leats hope there is!). Men can be shallow, so in some cases, yeah, your weight can matter. I think you should try online dating, there are so many guys looking for women. Try it, let me know how it goes!

Gay man here, so I dunno how valid MY advice will be, but for what it is worth:

Before I met my partner I shared an apartment with a woman whose dimensions were similar to yours. She had no trouble finding - and keeping - men who were interested in her ample figure, which she referred to as "Rubenesque." Even with her alopecia (and she did not wear wigs)!

I think the two factors that helped her most were that she had great confidence/assertiveness. It came out in her successful career as a businesswoman in radio... but also as a decisive personality who knew what she wanted.

She also sold Mary Kay cosmetics, and clearly knew how to present herself to her best advantage. Her sense of style extended to how she dressed. I remember her as being CLASSY.

For myself, I know that when I am feeling good about myself and my body I tend to get noticed more. It might also be that when I'm feeling good about myself I tend to hold myself up in better posture, so it improves my overall look. Even for an old fart like me!

When I was dating (back in the Dark Ages before the Internet) I learned that I was more likely to meet a guy when I wasn't feeling desperate and needy. Happiness, confidence, centeredness are attractive.

I also remember THIS about my younger days - there were guys I ended up with solely because "he looked back." I felt so inferior physically (non-athletic, little pot belly, pasty white skin) it never occurred to me that I could be WAY pickier about who I went out with, I was just so grateful for any attention I could get!

IMHO: Far healthier, both in terms of emotional well-being and physical safety? Learn to like yourself, the body you're in at this moment. Of course there's always something that could be improved, and that's why we have Fitness Goals. We're all on the same path. A guy who is worth having in your life will appreciate that: the you you are now as well as the you you hope to become.

I do not think your weight is as important as your self esteem(are you bothered by your weight?)
And do not forget if i can be a stay at home mom you can ask a guy out.
Believ in yourself JJ

you sound wonderful,i am not a man but i a hope a great one meets you.unfortunately,when i was heavy i was invisable and used to it.i went from a size 28 to a 7 and it has been shocking.men notice the outside of the package first and this seems to be their first nature.i have noticed more women are copying them these days

Hello Hllmyn,
I'm out of the dating game, so I guess I'm not really qualified for any advice. But I wanted to give you my perspective. You sound very lovely, and it's my guess that your shyness has more to do with missing out on romance more than any physical attribute. Why not try some type of on line match up service or similar approach ? My guess is that once someone gets to know you - your intelligence and warm personality will shine through. Be honest about your weight and particularly your height - he'll be delighted when he meets you I am sure.

My opinion? I think that anyone who doesn't like you for who you are isn't worth dating. Not to say that looking good won't be helpful to you, but it's what's inside that counts.