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i shed the pain and then i shed the pounds. i travel for the first time in 30 years,i am enjoying life like a 20 year old on her own without the wild parties.i wore a swim suit for the first time in years since i was 18 years old (my exhusband wouldn't let me wear any swim suit)and one of them was a 2 piece(been divorced since 1980).i was almost too chicken to wear it.a 29 year old flirted with me and asked me out! i am still freaked about that but the health benefits are off the charts.i am almost never tired.i have been working my pec muscles and i still can't believe it worked in that area.my doctor is geeking out about me.the only draw backs are 2 of my friends.they hurt me sometimes with their comments about my showing off my body. i swear i wear clothes 2 sizes larger now but it's not working.i wear a hat and no makeup around them but i am hurting my girlfriends of 30 years.these are the only ones but they are my closest friends,i love them.i don't like to eat infront of them because the whole conversation is about them being in their own words"fat and proud".i wish i knew what to do.got any suggestions?i am scared of men. these men are more forward than the men of my dating years.i swear my stomach quivers like a teenager when a handsome man tries to talk to me i can't converse.my palms sweat.i am warm. whats wrong with me i am 52. i may look 32 but i should be calmer than this.i am so embarrassed i can't tell anyone this who knows me .they'd laugh.i didn't know all of this was going to happen.i just wanted to get healthy and stay there.any advise out there?
deleted_user
deleted_user
First of all, congratulations! my advice is to stand tall and be proud of your accomplishments. You've increased your health and energy! It took a lot of hard, dedicated work. P
ractice gently standing up to your friends, until it feels natural.
About the new attention your getting--give yourself time to get used to it, and as always practice, even if it takes a thousand tries. Every effort is a step on your path to greater confidence and ability.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats awesome about your success. I must admit one the things you are encountering now (the attention) are what held me back in the past. Frankly I both want and fear attention. And you are so right about men being forward. Seriously, what happened to treating women like they were nice? As for the fat and proud business, thats their way of not feeling bad because now they know its possible and have less of an excuse. Look for new girlfriends. Be with them when you want but be strong and don't hide your light by not eating or not wearing makeup. Don't cater to them.
Marah
Marah
Here's a resopnce when these friends make a comment about you "showing off your body". Next time smile and say, "Damn strait I am!"
JiggaG
JiggaG
You go girl! They are not your real friends if they are making you worried and telling you comments like that. One word JEALOUSLY! Your real friends will be proud of you. As for the men just take them in your stride, little steps at a time get you much further and the further you get the more comfortable and confident you will be and feel! Good luck!!!!!
cinaflower
cinaflower
You can't control how others feel, and I know it bothers you because they're your friends but they should be supporting you and be cheering for you not trying to make you feel bad about this awesome accomplishment. I lost 45 pounds and started wearing sexier stuff and I'm 55 pounds from my goal. Nothing's wrong with wearing what makes you feel good about yourself. I've always struggled with compliments and attention. I gained 70 pounds after I had an affair at 23 to make sure I never got tempted again. And last year when a guy paid me attention I really had trouble trying to figure out what it meant. Was he being just friendly, flirting, wanted to run off to Bali with me? That's just something I'm going to learn how to handle because I won't let that stop me from losing the rest. Just stay healthy, just stay true to yourself and do what's best for you. If people can't deal with it, it's their loss.
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