Financial Challenges Support Group
This community is for people who are struggling to meet financial obligations of any kind. Financial challenges include everything from the day-to-day challenges of making ends meet to managing credit card debt to bankruptcy. Get support from others who are going through similar obstacles on the road back to financial stability.
therapists say that the first step to "healing" is accepting the problem and admitting to it.
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
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Hello all! I guess I am here for some advice. A bit about me. I am married and just had my 8th anniversary. We have three kids. I had a hysterectomy after the youngest. Before I met my DH, I was in an abusive relationship which left me with some issues. Sex has never been our most cohesive area. He has quite the sex drive, while I am more of a "take it or leave it" person. I love the intimacy...
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On July 25th, 2019 I had surgery for a torn ACL, this was suppose to mean 2 weeks of no weight baring but while in surgery they noticed a micro fracture as well so my 2 weeks no weight baring became 6 weeks. Just 4 days ago I was able to start weight baring I was told use a crutch or cane to start as needed for balance. When I went to start walking I was a bit wobbly as expected I walked a little...
That method worked for me. I discovered that emotional abuse and not expressing my feelings at being abused would trigger me into bad habits.
this new therapist doesn't seem to think i have any problems, though...it's making me confused....is she trying to convince me that i there is nothing wrong and hope that all this just goes away?