Financial Challenges Support Group
This community is for people who are struggling to meet financial obligations of any kind. Financial challenges include everything from the day-to-day challenges of making ends meet to managing credit card debt to bankruptcy. Get support from others who are going through similar obstacles on the road back to financial stability.
therapists say that the first step to "healing" is accepting the problem and admitting to it.
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
That method worked for me. I discovered that emotional abuse and not expressing my feelings at being abused would trigger me into bad habits.
this new therapist doesn't seem to think i have any problems, though...it's making me confused....is she trying to convince me that i there is nothing wrong and hope that all this just goes away?