Thanks everyone who responded so far to my last post! I appreciated it sooooo much. I came home after spending time with my bestfriend and going to Target. I knew since it was the third day of the flare up I would be better. So strange this disease. Every flare up it's 3 days. But hey, I was just thinking, if I didn't rest and stay in bed, how much worse and longer it would be. But here's the reality, I can NOT do anything when I'm flared up. I think only you guys know what I"m talking about. Okay, so I walk in the door, and my 12 year old daughter said that Daddy talked to her, but she shouldn't tell me. Well, she couldn't not tell me. We are very close and she tells me everything. Get this, he's getting her in between us. He told her that he can't tell me this because he thinks I would get mad, but that he thinks I could do more when I get flared up but I don't. I love the simpleness and the profoundness of a childs mind. She said to me, "Mom I thought about that, and then realized you would get up and so something if you could. You wouldn't just lay in bed." NO SHIT!!!!!! Well, I didn't say that, but I'm saying that to you guys. Yeah, I want to be in bed all day and feel like I'm going to die or just wishing I would. Not being able to read a book because I can't concentrate, or even watch tv since I don't even feel like doing that. Yeah, I can't wait for those flare up days so I could sit in bed and eat bon bons all day!!!! I'm so mad you guys I can feel my heart beating harder and faster than normal. He also told her how he hated to see her so upset, (so basically he takes it out on me). My daughter is 12.. She crys about everything!!! And the one time he finds her crying, this is what happens!! I feel betrayed you guys, because I thought my husband understood like no one else. I mean, I was just saying to him earlier that day, how I was feeling and how it doesn't make sense, and that I'm really fighting feeling really depressed about it. He's like, "yeah, I know." So this is what he thinks about my flare ups. Just an excuse to be lazy. Please!! I can't even remember what else he said to her. Like my friend said, he needs to find a friend to talk to, and not get my daughter involved!!! No kidding. We haven't talked at all since the incident, and he asked my daugther again while they were both outside, if I was still mad, and if I said anyhting. He can't even ask me!!?? I'm so mad I could spit nails but I'm too tired:). Honestly, I don't know what I'm going to do. I can't control these flare ups, and there not my fault and if he can't handle it, I don't want to hear it! I'm suffering enough!!! I feel so trapped in so many ways. Thanks everyone. I'll keep you posted some more if you guys are interested. Ugh!! PS I refuse to feel guilty anymore about something I can't control. I am a great Mom and wife, and when I'm not in a flare up he tells me that often.
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