she needs to get off the couch or she'll be there for along time,but it has to be gently, don't let the rapist do this to someone else...it took me years to get over b/c i laid in self pity for years,poor,poor me. she can get past it and the sooner the better. it will always be there but easier to deal with. at her young age she does not know what to do as of yet b/c the shock is still there, so be gentle....i put you and her on my prayer list...love..helen

Bless your heart! It is "normal" for an assault victim to not want to do anything about it, just retreat into themselves - she is a grownup and can make her own decisions, but really she isn't capable of doing it for herself right now. If you can get another family member to help you, take her to the mental health clinic anyway. She will resent you for the effort, but you will save her life. My daughter was raped at 16 and we had some of the same resistance, but finally overcame it - the guy is serving 28 yrs straight time now, and she is better for it. I will send you prayers and energy to help you with this - I know how hard it is. Blessings, Star )O(

im so sorry this happend . im sure thare is a lot more happens than are ever reported.just be gental and try to coax her to talk and do something hugs to both you and her.

AND ALSO THIS DOES HAVE EVERY THING TO DO WITH US. WE FEEL SO MUCH LIKE FAMILY HERE, THAT THERE ISN'T ANYTHING YOU CAN'T ASK US, LOTS OF WISDOM HERE....LOVE....HELEN

This is a nightmare for all of you. The poor lass is going thru such torture mentally, going over and over what happened, could she have prevented it happening, did she lead him on, that is all going on in her mind. She should report what happened, but she feels so grotty, she won't. The lassie needs time, patience and gentleness. This attack has most probably made her feel worthless about herself. My heart goes out to you at this most difficult and terrible time. Could you ask your police friend to take a statement instead, she may do that. Sending warm thoughts and hugs to you and yours, Owlxx

I agree with the others get her tail off that couch. The longer she sits there the deeper she will get.
I am so so sorry you are dealing with this. I know exactly how resistant kids at this age can be. Ive got one myself.
I would try to encourage her to go to the ER and file a report, I understand how hard this may be for her but in fear of this sorry excuse for a human being doing this to someone else she needs to stand up and take a stand and say, this was not my fault and he is going to pay for this.
*hugs* 2 u

i am sorry to hear it has happened to another i was raped my self 2 years ago and did the same sat on the couch never siad a word becuse i thought it was me when i finally did come round enough to do anything even tell family i did however this was a week later i had the unfortent expernce and had i know that if i didnt have a rape kit done asap that they couldnt prove it i would have gone in strate away alest giving me ythe comfet that he would get cought how ever he is still free and there is nothing i can do my sagetion is the same as pagan she needs to be taken to a mental helth clinic they will test her there she may hate you for it but she will love you more once she manages to over come it after that all you can do is listen and gently puxh her to move on