When the pain got so bad in 2002 that I had to quit my job managing the video store and cut back on hours doing design the X was not happy (gee it meant she had to get a job) and by the spring of 2003 there was nothing left of the relationship or how it had been. Do I think we would have stayed together had I been able to continue working? For awhile longer than we did probably but in the end she had alot of issues that I just wasnt willing to take on any more but yes the fibro speeded that process along.

Good ? my fellow insomniac

I guess mine is like yours...nice most of the time but can be a jerk. they just don't understand what we are going through. it's mostly because we don't look sick. or if I have energy for a couple of days or having a good week, he thinks I'm ok and should keep it up. I don't know...I just do what I can, and try to ignore the jerky comments. I guess men can pms too! lol

Well, I guess we have made it this far, 30 years; might as well stay together.

It changed, oh boy, did it change. He and my girlfriend GOT TOGETHER in a royal ass way. On my way to the attorney's office, he called.

So, now, when he gets in one of his jerky moods, I just say "Come on bubble butt, you want to fight, I will fight with you! (words only, of course" ) Since, he knows and I know he has no butt to speak of (lost out there, huh?) then HE KNOWS I've had enough, but, if he cares to continue, I'll sock it right to him.

Most of the time, these past two years, he's been good, but, then we are all human and he has his moments. Like when I have the Air Conditioning going and a window slightly open- I have to have fresh air - well, he blows a gasket or two, but then it's over.

I am a widow of four years so on my own now. He was understanding most of the time and helped out with whatever he could. Miss him.I will never find someone as comppasionate and kind as him.

OMGosh...what a question to pick for me to start my day !!
I try not to be to disappointed when he shows his Jeckel/Hyde personalities...I have mine too. I do wish he understood the powers of his words , he can say things that I cannot get out of my head..like the day he said "you have aged 20 yrs in the last three yrs."
Like me , he had two disaterous marriages befor we met ,and he is not as "huggy-kissy" as I am...and I do wish he would show his affection more often.We have only been married 4 yrs , this next March , and have known each other for 5 1/2 yrs , so he has seen me decline rapidly.
I am not able to work , and although he doesn't say so , I know he resents that.

Wow my friend what a good question. My hubby picks up the slack and is very supportive. Where we have our problem is that when I do feel good I try to do all that I can. I almost feel like I better take advantage of the time I can do things and feel good. He gets frustrated with me because once I do this then I'm down again, usually for a little while. He has never said anything resentful or has he made me feel bad. I do that to myself well enough. I have to say I am blessed with my wonderful husband. He picks up a lot of the slack. He does miss the women he married though. I know that. I strive to be her when I can. When I can't he is the first one to tell me to slow down and says if I'm doing the best I can do then I shouldn't expect more from myself. As long as I give it my best everyday even if that is doing nothing it's okay. He is a keeper for sure.

Mine's like yours. Most days he's really good, gives me a nightly massage, cooks supper, works full time, etc. and then there's the days where he's frustrated. Usually the days where I have trigger point pain and fatigue. There will be days where I just can't do it all. I think that's what drives me (to keep working, clean the house, stay organized etc.) the most. I don't want to see that concerned on his face every day. I only see it once in a blue moon now and it makes me feel guilty, upset, mad and ashamed. Not healthy.

We give each other unconditional love and take our marriage vows are "till death us do part" seriously...although I'm still not convinced we'll part in death either. I'm not saying he's perfect but he's pretty darned near. His highly sarcastic and almost hurtful natural stops him from being perfect! LOL

I lost my bf when I got fibro. He didn't understand or believe in it. No great loss as he was a cheater anyway. He was also chronically unemployed. OK, He was a loser!

To be totally honest I doubt that anyone would want me with my health issues. I am no catch, poor, and I just don't see anyone wanting to deal with my illness.

Who would want to date me? A woman with fibro... (Broken)

I can't believe I think this way! Man, am I down on myself or what! Sorry.

My husband is a prince. He knew before he married me about my horrible childhood, and was willing to take on that baggage. Then I started getting sick almost immediately after the wedding. It was thyroid and candida issues at that point. I had some time off from the health issues, but went thru tons of emotional stuff trying to finally deal with my abuse issues. Then I had our third child(it was a traumatic birth), and next thing you know I am in full blown fibro mode. So he has put up with more from me in 13 years than some people put up with in a lifetime. I think it is our shared faith in Christ that has enabled us to make it. We meant it when we said our vows and he trys very hard to be a Christ-like husband. He has his days when all of it gets to him, he wouldn't be human if he didn't. I am very blessed. This was a great topic aspire.

my boyfriend always wants to know what he can do to help with my pain,i say there nothing you can do

I was already sick when Dean and I got married...my husband is a fixer {if ya know what I mean}

Funn you should put this on here today. Read on and you will understand! My husband of 5 1/2 years is mostly wonderful, but he has his days where he just doesn't talk, and it scares me sometimes, because that is how my 2nd husband started acting just before he walked out on me. Carl is a wonderful person, but I think that having to do most of the household chores, laundry and working a full time job, and taking care of me, is taking its toll on him. I told him this morning that he needed to go in to work a little late, bacause I wanted to go out for breakfast, and we haven't done this in a long time. We used to do this every couple of weeks or so. Once we got there, he was pretty much trapped, and I got up my nerve and just asked him if there was a problem.He says that there isn't anything wrong, that he just goes through phases where he doesn't talk much. There I was in IHOP crying because I am scared he doesn't love me anymore, and he ends up moving to my side of the table and told me he loves me more today than he did yesterday. Then I cried because I was happy. The waitress thought I was nuts, I'm sure, but I don't care because I feel better about Carl and I, and that is all that counts. Love and hugs. Kathy

My situation very similar. Until diagnosed he thought I was just being lazy. Ofcourse also lost my Aunt, Uncle and Mother which added to my problems. One day he is supportive the next he says "You are always sick" His thing is that he thinks there should be some quick fix to all this. And we dont look sick so how could we be. My thoughts and prayers are with you

My fibro was bad when I met my husband - in fact, the first words out of my mouth were "I have fibromyalgia". We met through an online service. He had responded to my ad, "looking for Mr. Right". and answered that he was possibly Mr Right. Well, now 8 years later he is still the wonderful man I married. We had both been married before and definitely knew what we did not want in a mate. He deals with his own chronic pain (broke his back before we met) so he understands when I can't do something and I understand when he can't do something. As my son puts it, "I married well" and he's not talking about $$. lol. Sometimes I feel bad though because he deserves so much more...

I'M TRULY BLESSED THAT I HAVE A HUSBAND THAT IS SO UNDERSTANDING. WITH MY OTHER MARRIAGES, I'M 100% THEY WOULD NOT HAVE HELPED ME AT ALL. SO THANKFUL FOR MINE....HELEN