Determin to be happy today. Put in some music that just has to make you dance. I want you to be happy today. Do something really special just for you. Call up a friend for lunch or just be lazy today and enjoy a good book or your favorite craft. Please be happy.
xoxo
~dixie

Dixe4me is right on target..now is the time to put on happy music and shake your booty till the sad gremlins leave you alone.Please know you are loved and I hope you have a great big smile on that beautiful face of yours.

I agree with Dixe - I get that random sadness too, its part of cfs/cps/fms I have discovered its part of getting older too and this time of year, when its dark, miserable and v expensive doesnt help much does it. Put on some music that you can sing along to and dance to.

I agree with the others. Christmas can be a sad time when we have lost some one. I have to fight it too. marilyn

Interesting that you mentioned music. Music has been a part of my life ever since I can remember. Music opened doors for me that changed my life and made me a success. After my trauma occured some years ago, I could no longer sing, I could not even listen to music at all. I thought that it was a strange thing because I was so connected to music. But I find it strangely comforting to hear that it is not me being nuts. Others have this same aversion. I wonder why this is the case still, but thank you anyway for sharing and letting me know that I am not really nuts.

I think it is all the background noise in the music that gets me. I can only listen to very very soothing stuff or something that has a real jig to it and make me want to dance as i do my housework. The car radio will drive me insane every time!

I felt like I was reading about myself Quattera. I know that I've often felt this way when coming out of a pretty deep depression OR period of mourning.
One doctor told me it was, as you said, a part of the grieving process of the "old me" or let's say "former me".
Actually, those "fantasies" you talk about still continue for me, too. So, what I usually do to help with this is go out and somehow be among people. Initially for me, this was volunteering at my church, but there are other things you could do. The good thing about volunteering was that it got me out with people, forgot about my own ugly thoughts and since I was "teetering" on the edge of one of those days, I'd usually forget the bad stuff and fall onto the side of a good day. AND, with volunteering in any form, you don't HAVE to be there if you feel sick, so my illness(es) weren't an issue.
Now, I've been able to maintain an extremely flexible part-time (REALLY part-time) job. It's at a local health club. Now you'd think that would depress me with all of the 'buff' skinny healthy people. But it's not like that. There are people of all shapes and sizes there. Since I get a free membership as a perk, I do a little bit of treadmill on the days I can and some of the machines with a LITTLE weight. BUt the best thing about it is that everyone is pleasant, it distracts me and gets me out of my own thoughts. Once I start falling into myself, that's when things get ugly.

Music for me too, has been a great source of comfort, even though, sure, some songs will bring you to tears.

You will be just fine. Just don't overthink it, try to get out...like you said..take yourself to breakfast and people watch!! and play those tunes that make you the happiest!

You're not going to feel this way for long....so hang in there and do nice stuff for YOU!!!!!
Love and hugs,
Morus

Is there anything we can do to help?

It's taken me years, but I think I'm finally starting to like Christmas. Us FM'ers have to start earlier than everyone else so we don't overdo it. What I've finally understood is that it's OK to take the easier way of doing things...pick up store bought baked goods at a bakery, print signature labels out on all our cards, get someone to help with cleaning and decorating etc.

Just because some of us are plus sized doesn't mean our life has to be over. So what if a little weight (or a lot of weight in my case) is there? Just for today, I'm going to accept my weight and work on making healthier choices.

I had a web site on weight loss/eating healthy at one time and may start it back up again. It basically said to toss your scales (too negative) and work on losing inches, portion control, eating healthier, recipes and inspirational ideas and quotes.

Oh...and don't forget getting some sunlight...if there's any available....actually in NJ we haven't seen any in days and won't for days...but I have one of those "lights". It's little but it works...

love and hugs,
Morus

Why don't you stop and buy a Shakira CD? See if it's happy songs, and get one. I have it, but don't remember, sorry.

I think going to breakfast is an awesome idea. How smart of you to take your saddness head on like that. I just hide when I get like that.

We'll be here for you hunny.

You've been given some good advice. Just focus on yourself, and try to accept yourself as a beautiful person, just as you are. I have given up on beating myself up over my weight. Fat is not a 4-letter word, and it is not a character flaw. You are a wonderful, compassionate, loving person. Your weight has nothing to do with the person you are. Much better to be a big, beautiful person than a skinny person with no beauty on the inside. hugs

i have those day alot .. or i have those moments.. i find my self sad and near tears fr almost anything anymore..**hugs** do domething special for yourself today it will help..

Oh you all are so sweet and helped me so much.

I did go head long into the day and probably overdid it too. I ran errands, reading my book in between to rest. I got home and I did buy some treats for myself and had to put everything away. Then I had to work on my pond and got nice and angry because some of the things I had to do were supposed to be done by others. Then I collapsed for a while...LOL.

Today is better but no less busy so far BUT this afternoon is my massage and then I will relax!!

Hugs to one and all !!

I think we all have random sadness I do ..This to shall pass........Big Hugs for you my friend

glad your better!! I usually call a friend who makes me smile or text my daughters who call me crazy and makes me smile. music is a good mood changer for me also!