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I was just wondering how everyone with children handle parenting with FM. I have a total of 5 Kids between my husband and myself. I always played an active role in everything they did until I got sick and just couldn't all the time.
The hardest part is my 16 year old moved out to his dads. I gave in for so long with being sick that one day when I finally stood up he got mad and moved out. All three of the older boys 18,16, and 15 don't understand why I don't work. What breaks my heart just as much is my daughters standard answer to everything is we will see mommy probably won't feel good. I try not to complain around them all the time yet they ask me what is wrong because they see the pain in my face. THen they say all I ever do is complain I am sick. Just curious how everyone elses children handle this and how you as parents handle things. Any comments and advice would greatly be appreciated
The hardest part is my 16 year old moved out to his dads. I gave in for so long with being sick that one day when I finally stood up he got mad and moved out. All three of the older boys 18,16, and 15 don't understand why I don't work. What breaks my heart just as much is my daughters standard answer to everything is we will see mommy probably won't feel good. I try not to complain around them all the time yet they ask me what is wrong because they see the pain in my face. THen they say all I ever do is complain I am sick. Just curious how everyone elses children handle this and how you as parents handle things. Any comments and advice would greatly be appreciated
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This isn't as pity-patty as it sounds. As Mothers we all will make or take any action that will bring peace to our family.
And...I have a great group of old friends. Most of whom I've know for more than 30 years. They listen and care and are there for me. It is the love they give to me that allows me to move past the sorrow and share my love with my children.
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I hope this helps some.
Ness
So, I have no advise to you...except to take care of self FIRST so you can continue {for as long as possible} to care for your children...
God bless you...Bonnie
If I feel bad, its a movie etc. really, really bad movie at home with junk food. They just really want time with us. My son just now asked to play a game with me, which I would rather have a tooth pulled than play a game and I need to sign off and play with him so take each moment as it comes.
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Holly
The one who isn't is 20, has her own apt. & works full time at Walmart. Just before she moved out she told me that I could work if I only tried; that all I was was lazy. That nearly killed me. I have had FM for 17 years and am disabled by it. I CANNOT work but wish I could for the extra money & self esteem. My husband yelled at her not to talk about things you don't know anything about.
She doesn't call or visit and she says she's ashamed of me. I can hardly express the grief I feel. She was always so sweet & loving and now she wants nothing to do with us. I am broken-hearted.