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OT - WHY?????

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Hey everyone,

I just got a phone call from my SIL. My sweet niece just found out her pregnancy isn't viable, and needs a D&C on Friday. The Dr. said all that is there is an empty fluid filled placenta, no baby growing. My niece is devastated. They called it a Mohler pregnancy. Does anyone know what that means???? I'm going to try and research it.

This following right on the heels of losing my Dad 2 weeks ago, is just so hard for this family to take.

I just want to shout at God, "WHY???"
I KNOW He does everything for a reason, and their has to be a reason we won't be blessed with a new baby right now. It's just all so sad........

My poor brother was SO looking forward to his first grandchild and now he has been dealt a double blow, first Dad now this. Please pray for him and his family, especially my niece who is so upset right now, she is beyond words.

Thank you all,

Many hugs,
Laurie
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Oh I am SO sorry to hear that...yes, GOD has his reasons...and NO I have NO clue what they are..I just have the Faith...So very many things I just do not understand...I pray when my time comes I will come to understand
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I'm so sorry. I think God will understand if you yell and ask why. It is so difficult to lose a child before birth. Been there, done that.
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Thank you, ladies.

I totally understand what my neice is going through. I had 3 miscarriages between my 1st and 2nd child. Usually right at the 3 month mark, just like my neice. It's very devastating, mentally and physically.
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so sorry to hear this. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family..i also don't comprehend the reasons for something like this,but all i can do is send you my heartfelt wishes of faith. i am at a loss of words..this is truly sad. maybe there is a child out there somewhere who may enter their lives and bring them some comfort though i know this is different then having their own biological child...oh i do hope this is not upsetting you. i guess i am just trying to understand what the reason is when something like this happens...i am so very sorry Laurie..prayers and love to you and your family
please forgive me if this upset you i didn't mean in that way at all.

hugs to you all
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I agree w/ Maglet about the yelling. I believe that the Allwise isn't angry at all when we express our anger & frustrations at what we go through. These things are after all, learning experiences.
My thoughts & sympathies to your family in such hard times.
levisgranny
levisgranny
You will all be in my prayers! I too, get very upset with God when things happen that are awful. I do let him know too. But, I keep hearing the words...It is not for us to ask why, only God himself can answer that. I am sure someday He will, too. Just keep the faith no matter how hard it gets. He will pull your family through it. God bless you and your family! I am so sorry for your losses. Hugs to you!
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I went through a 2 year period of infertility and then started getting pregnant at the drop of a hat. I lost my first three in the early 2nd tri , had my son, and then lost 2 more during the 2nd tri. At that point, I had my tubes tied. It is always difficult because it involves a loss of dreams and hope for a child that wasn't to be. My heart goes out to you and your niece.
CarrieinSK
CarrieinSK
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm not angry with God, just so, so sad that all this has happened to our family in such a short time span. After all, we just lost our Dad, but we know WHY, Cancer took him. It's just harder to understand the loss of a baby, that was helping to heal the family as we looked foreward to it's arrival in 6 months.

Tea, I am in no way upset by your reply. You guys are the best, in my book.

Hugs,
Laurie
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I'm sorry to hear that. That is so sad. I found this on web MD. It explains what a molar pregnancy is.

http://www.webmd.com/baby/tc/molar-pregnancy-topic-overview
Dixe4me
Dixe4me
I just don't know what to say, so I haven't posted. I just want you to know that I do feel bad for you and your family and I care. xoxo ~dixie
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Lauri~
I am so sorry. I will, as always, keep you and your family in my prayers.hugs
redsilverfox
redsilverfox
My condolences & hugs to all!
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so sorry to hear of your loss.... my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this sad time...love and hugs Ellie
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This has happened to me.This means she had a false pregnancy.Not to compare your niece to an animal,but dogs do this alot.Technically,she really was never pregnant.Her HCG level shot up causing her body to think she was pregnant,therefore a positive pregnancy test,sak,placenta,and amniotic fluid forms.A lot of people who this happens to they even have soar breasts and morning sickness!But since there was never a fertilized egg,then there's no baby.She's lucky the docs found this out in time.I found out the hard way.Eventually since it's not a true pregnancy,the HCG levels fall(pregnancy hormone).When this happens you start to bleed and the placenta seperates from the uterus causing hemorraging.(sp)I had to have several blood transfusions.Tell your niece not to worry-I know it's hard because your heart loves that baby as soon as u find out your pregnant,but she can and will have a sucessful pregnancy eventually.My doc advised me to wait untill I had 6 regular cycles before we tried again cuz this cuts down on the chance of the same thing repeating itself.It was April 2001 when this happened to me-August 29,2002 Chandler Riley Chick was born at 6lbs.and 19 inches long.He was and is beautiful!!!!He started kindergarten this year.They did several ultrasounds when I was pregnant with him early on to make sure the embryo formed,turned into a fetus,and developed a heart beat.Sorry for your family's pain but I'm sure it won't be long untill you welcome a new addition!! Lots of Love,Leslie C.
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