How are you feeling today my friend?

Take care,
Stay sane!

Helen, thank you for this timely post.

I used to be very open to accepting friends. My thinking was you never know when you might meet someone who turns out to be a really good friend.

In the last week or so I've rec'd a lot of friend requests, way more than usual.

I, too, check profiles. Many don't have much in them and the ones that do are from communities I am not part of. Most don't even include any kind of message. Altho, one recent hug struck me as a bit odd. It said something about my smiley face that wasnt accurate. I checked out who else they hugged & the other hugs said exactly the same thing. Thought that was strange...

I also belong to the divorce community and there are several posts regarding this same issue. For whatever reasons, there seems to be an increase in this activity lately.

Another similarity between these communities is what many call trolls (people who join a community only to post negative comments or 'stir the pot'). Then they un-join until they want to post again.

There also seems to be more 'scammers', offering to share lottery winnings, using DS as a dating service, even just 'collecting' friends, etc.

Personally, I've started being very selective about accepting friends.
Now I ask myself, "Would I want this person to read my journal which contains my innermost thoughts & feelings?"

It seems to me that there is a more natural order to making friends and that is what I look for.

Of course, this is just me expressing my opinion.

Gentle Hugs to ALL!

I also wish that the info in the profile was true, I've seen a few that are really off the wall. If you are not truthful than I don't want your support.

I believe a million percent in being truthful and the people that just thrive on being negative have no place here!

But you do realize that you can find all of DS info and profiles and such on an internet search! I hope I don't scare people, but maybe allot people know this and just want to share things with their friends list or whatever and not the world!

Me, I won't say anything I wouldn't say to the world! I kinda don't care what people read because I'm honest and what I say is exactly what I go through and if someone looks it up on the net, then maybe it will help shed a light into our true struggles! Just my thoughts!

Take care,
Stay sane!

Since I'm new, I'm not real sure what has sparked this discussion, but I agree with BlueMist - I don't care who reads what I write. My policy has always been not to say something about a person unless I'd say it to their face, and ideally it should be said to THEIR face, rather than to someone else. Most people wouldn't put anything on a site like this if it was that private. I do believe in order to help each other and ourselves, we have to be absolutely honest, but if something strikes me as being too personal or whatever I wouldn't hesitate to opt out of the discussion. And if someone else felt I was out of line with something I said, I wouldn't take offense if they told me so. Of course, in all things, speak with love from a kind heart and a gentle spirit. (Or as my Mama would say, "play nice, dammit".

I agree with what other people have said in their profiles. In the one that I wrote, I was very truthful. I wish that everyone's profile was truthful since I don't read everyone's. I usually read only the new members that have joined and no one else's.

I'm new here but want to add my life is basically an open book. I posted some photos of my family (hate my photo taken so didn't post that) and some scenery photos. LOL

Too be honest (i hate that about me) I was leery of putting too much in my profile, but maybe after reading this I should go add "something" to it.

Thanx Cindy !!

THANKS FOR ASKING MS.BLUE, YESTERDAY I WAS OK,BUT TODAY IT'S NOT THE SAME, FEELING THE PAIN AGAIN, BUT AM THANKFUL FOR 4 DAYS OF BEING PAIN FREE....LOL...HELEN

I understand where youre coming from sweety. I guess I was kind of naieve when I came to DS. I assumed that everyone was honest about who they are and what their struggling with. I should update my profile as a few things are a little different in the few months Ive been here.

I agree with you Helen. I always go and check profiles before adding anyone.

I was just talking with my husband about this last night. All blogs get the good and the bad. I figured I'll take what helps and leave what doesn't, because I have found this site very helpful. And the things that are a bit out there, I leave. ..Kris

Hi~I'mNicol...I am new here. I am very gretful to have found DS. My profile is pretty inclusive. I hope I did not disrespect anybodies boundaries by just "jumping" in...If so...plez accept my sincere apology..
Peace,
Nicol

My profile is totally honest, but I do want to add that you shouldn't put stuff out there that you wouldn't give to a stalker, and that includes pictures of your family. There was recently a case where someone took a picture of a missing girl and used it on a dating site as their own.

I dont think it would be a great iea for anyone to put anything too personal on there..
I have pictures of me and my husband but would not put the kids on there..once it is on the internet it is out there for anyone to find..
a general location and general information about yourself is fine...anything you want to share with friends you can do so in email..