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I am so upset....
I got an e-mail from my daughter in law last night. She thinks I need to get off my butt and go to work so I will feel better. I stopped working because I was on the verge of being fired for not being able to do it and I went on short term disability. I was just terminated from my job last week when my fmla expired. I am now able to collect long term disability. If I go back to work somewhere else and fail I believe I will lose that long term disability from my employer and not have any income. I am single and get child support for a 13 yr old daughter living at home. My daughter in law also thinks that I am relying on my ex for everything. Yes, he has been really understanding and has given me a little extra $$ the last couple of months which has made me feel very guilty.
I was also at a family b-day party on Saturday and my nephew brought over two of their 2 week old puppies. My daughter fell in love with one and we are thinking of adopting one, we already have 2 cats. I thought that this would make my daughter so very happy because she has always wanted a dog but we were in an apt. (We may be moving into my ex-s condo if he is transfered out of the country for work, he wants us to take care of it for him) I also thought it would be good for me, make me get up and walk the dog and keep me company when I am home alone all day. Well...again, my daughter inlaw gave me the big lecture about the cost of a dog, the exercise it needs and that my ex will not want a dog in his condo.
I understand her concerns and know she did it just because she cares but it still hurts thinking that she doesn't understand how I feel and how this illness has affected me.
I can't stop crying.....
I got an e-mail from my daughter in law last night. She thinks I need to get off my butt and go to work so I will feel better. I stopped working because I was on the verge of being fired for not being able to do it and I went on short term disability. I was just terminated from my job last week when my fmla expired. I am now able to collect long term disability. If I go back to work somewhere else and fail I believe I will lose that long term disability from my employer and not have any income. I am single and get child support for a 13 yr old daughter living at home. My daughter in law also thinks that I am relying on my ex for everything. Yes, he has been really understanding and has given me a little extra $$ the last couple of months which has made me feel very guilty.
I was also at a family b-day party on Saturday and my nephew brought over two of their 2 week old puppies. My daughter fell in love with one and we are thinking of adopting one, we already have 2 cats. I thought that this would make my daughter so very happy because she has always wanted a dog but we were in an apt. (We may be moving into my ex-s condo if he is transfered out of the country for work, he wants us to take care of it for him) I also thought it would be good for me, make me get up and walk the dog and keep me company when I am home alone all day. Well...again, my daughter inlaw gave me the big lecture about the cost of a dog, the exercise it needs and that my ex will not want a dog in his condo.
I understand her concerns and know she did it just because she cares but it still hurts thinking that she doesn't understand how I feel and how this illness has affected me.
I can't stop crying.....
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
What about volunteering at an animal shelter with your daughter? You both could take some puppies for walks and they would love it. Our 20 yr old daughter and her ex boyfriend got a puppy last year and had to work 10 hour days. I found looking after him extremely difficult. I had a bad cold last winter and taking the puppy out to do his business 10 times a day was exhausting. Not to mention, his constant need for attention, chewing the window sill, chasing the cat etc. I guess it would depend on the breed but we will not get a puppy again, ever. What about starting a puppy sitting job at your house? I know we needed that service when we daughter was living here for her puppy and I had to work. That might be a great option for you as you could have your night's free plus pick and choose which days you want to work. :)
As for the puppy...GO GET HIM. I got a puppy 14 months ago and it has been the best thing that I have done for myself in years. The puppy does not start out walking a mile, but a little bit at a time. This gives you the ability to begin slowly also and work up to a long walk. When my Chips and I first started walking, it was hard to walk across the back field, but I did it everyday, a little bit further each time because he HAD to go outside. Now 14 months later, we take a daily walk of 3 miles each morning. We are out there even if I am having a day when I am walking with a cane. He is happy to get out all of his energy, He is calm the rest of the day, and I get to build up more strength.
u really need to let her know that she is not your mother, how dare she tell u to go get a job or that u can or cant have a dog? really, u need to let her know that what ur doing is in no way causing her any harm. Im so glad to hear that your ex is so kind to you.
u need to be firm with your dil and let her know that she is not your mother. she has no right to tell u what u should do.
have u spoke to your son about how his wife talks to you? its time she find a new hobby that doesnt pertain to u and what u do or dont do.
you dont need any added stress. dont let her get to u.
be firm with her. its time she find a new hobby, she needs to keep her nose out of your business.
if she continues to be rude id stop talking to her.
have a goody monday
As far as telling you that you need to get off your butt? Wow...maybe she needs to some research about FMS so she can find a little empathy in her heart! Please don't cry anymore...you are right, she just doesn't understand and that has nothing to do with you. The next time she wants to be helpful, tell her to google FMS so she can be more informed about what you are going through. I'm with you! Be well.
I want to encourage you to keep trying to educate them about your condition. If it means putting them on this website or adding them as your support network so be it. If it means bringing them to a Dr.'s appointment--do it. I bought a video from Amazon.com that describes FMS in detail and shows Dr.'s and other people describing their pain.
GET THAT PUPPY, and have fun!!