Monday Morning Mucky Check-in
Good morning! Posting late Sunday night b/c... Well, today was The Day we had The Marital Talk.
And, frankly, all the stress and all the stress and all the stress.... means I'm down sick again. Stupid immune system refuses to be healthy when I tell it to be!
Short version? Hubby's dad laid it out as "Do you want more money, more than you want to be married and enjoying the life you've got?" And Hubby... concluded money is nice but after us basically being polite roommates for several days and he had to realize just how much 1. I do and 2. the support he gets from me *in* his daily job issues. (E.g., I ask how his day was, listen, offer feedback and hugs.) I think his dad also told him some stuff about the divorce between Hubby's parents... stuff that wasn't known previously... b/c Hubby when we sat down to talk? Looked really rattled. Penitent. Tears, emotion, and so forth. So here we are. Truce called, and he's realllllly sorry, but I'm basically leaving him on quasi-probation for a bit, just to be sure. I do know that my mom's recent near-death shook up Hubby, and I think he got caught up in how his family expects things to be done (many advanced degrees, big incomes, fancy houses, big overseas vacations, and la-di-dah stuff, you've heard me bitch about SIL often enough to know)....
B/c after all, you're meant to have ... "XYZ" ... by age (?)... then you are a failure and need to ditch all else to get that goal. Fear does tend to "reset" us to those childhood expectations.
Speak of childhood:
Good morning!Well, I took a walk yesterday. After being told by new neighbors that I, as a female, cannot possiblyhelp them move in (?! I can't carry a lamp?!) ... I was waylaid on my 1/3-mile walk by two dogs and two cats. Because. Y'know. It's me. So the shor twalk became a long hour. Not my fault poor animals wanted so much loving. And, y'know. One of the cats wouldn't let me leave. Kept going...
Good morning!Well, we have four cat beds on the porch and three had dents this morning. Temp at 5 AM? -1*C, about 30*F. Shadow and Buster are confirmed, but number three is... ? Not there when I put out food. I swar I end up knowing cats by their butt-dents on the porch! (Or their wet pawprints. LilMiss's are uniquely tippy-toe-tiny, as if she never lets her whole forepaw touch the ground. Yes,...
During my stress yesterday I posted very sensitive stuff on here without warning others. I've deleted it in an attempt to make it right but I'm really sorry for anyone I upset and will be more thoughtful next time.
What are you doing to keep busy this weekend? I'll be shopping for Christmas today with my Dad. Tomorrow I will go to church and see a baby and a couple kids be baptized. I always thought those were private. Lol. I plan to work on crafts this weekend too and I hope to go to Booster Juice today for a Brazillian Smoothie! I love that kind :) Happy weekend heart-felt friends :)