We moved into the same town that my mom and dad and my sister and her husband live in Sept 2010. Since then, my sister has visited me maybe 3 times. She came over yesterday. After some time went by, she brings up me being sick. She tells me 'you need to get out more. All you do is that (pointing at me sitting in my chair) and that's ALL you do. I think you're not able to do things because you mentally tell yourself you can't do it. I hate to think of you like this. This is not you - this is not who you are!' She says ' I know it hurts, but that's just in your skin, right . . . that's what Fibromyalgia is, right?' I try again to explain to her all the different symptoms and issues and possibly RA as well. Lack of quality sleep day after day. I told her there is a lot of online sources she can research to get an exact idea of what I'm going through, and used the thought of think back to the last really bad flu you had . . . It really seemed like she just came to tell me that it's all in my head and I just need to get it out of my head and that I've convinced myself that I'm sick. Not to mention, she is one of the many family members that has told me 'how I feeling and what I do all day', but never ask. They just speak on assumption. This week from Sunday to Saturday, the only day I didn't leave the house was Tuesday, 2 of the days were days that I went to our old house to pack and load up my car because we're still moving. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about the way my family treats me. I asked her today if she had a chance to research online (already sent her email links months ago) Response: No, I've been too busy. So I'm relying on others here to vent and see if anyone else has the same problem with close family members. And if so, how do you cope with it?
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