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Ladies, I need some advice...change of subject...

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I'm really at my wits end.....

All things being equal...say you have fibro...which we all do AND you have a cold, sore throat, etc. AND you can't call in sick to work (part-time;2-3 hours/day) because your boss is away AND there is a ladies retreat at the church in which you have a small part (5 minute talk, etc) AND the retreat is overnight(locally on Friday night and all day Saturday) AND then you have to go back to work on Sunday morning for a couple hours(the day after the retreat is over).

I can't give up work because of a cold...but you know how a cold feels WITH fibro (and a flare no less). Also, I NEEEED the money...ugh. But I hate to run out on my retreat/church thingy. On the other hand, it is a very tiring retreat with all of the activity that goes on. I am a worker (which could mean just about anything from photocopying to serving food) and it and it will be(always is)very taxing. But God is important to me.

Gosh...if this made any sense to anyone....what do I do?

I feel overwhelmed and like I'm not doing a good job at anything!?!?!?

help!?

Morus
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I feel for you, Hon!

It all goes back to us women feeling like we have to be all to everyone. I'm sure people will understand you are not feeling well, and a cold on top of everything else just sucks, I know I have one now, too.

You need to blow off the retreat this time and take care of YOU. People who really know you will understand, and more importantly, God understands!
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I pick and choose...somethings are WORTH the pain and fatigue I know I will experience afterwards....so go ahead if this means alot to you...but first prepare for the after affect...and BE sure to allow urself the after rest !!...Do good for others...AND for YOURSELF!!
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1st, maybe you shouldn't be taking on so much if you don't feel well. We all get sick sometimes. It's just part of life.

2nd, have you tried zicam? I get the stuff that you stir into your tea. Works great for me. Also for a cold, take half a lemon & squeeze it into a cup of steaming hot tea. Then add 2 peppermints. Drink it while it's still hot or at least very warm.
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If you have a fever with your sickness, you may be contagious & risk the chance of getting others sick as well. Missing work & other events because you are sick isn't a lame excuse...it's reality. And because you have fibro as well, in my experience, having the flu feels about as close as you can get to death's doorstep...I pray you feel better soon.
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yikes. I would try and go to work, its always best if THEY send YOU home. Pray about the church thingy, God is important to me too, talk to someone at your fellowship. Somebody will come alongside you and help you through this retreat for the church.
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YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST...you know, I just walked in from work and wrote this....I was near tears and now I'm near tears because you all are so nice to take the time to respond. You ALL really understand and that's SO important.

I'm heading in the direction of not participating in the retreat OR...if I do, very little of it, like my 5 minute talk.

I wish we could all be closer geographically ...so we could spend some time together. It would be nice to spend time with people who really understand and can put things in perspective.

Thanks you guys (sorry nj accent again!?!) Love and hugs to you ALL!!!

I will use all the advice I've gotten...right down to the peppermints in the tea..... ;)

hugs!!!!!
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you need extra rest right now. I had a cold a few weeks ago and it hung on for ever.. extra rest and some vitiam b-12 and b-cpmplex and of courese c and some zinic,I didn't take mine.. hope you feel better soon, hugs
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I know how you feel, God is very important to me too. I also know that God knows what's in your heart and if you are to sick to go to this retreat I'm sure he will forgive you as will the rest of the group. Also you don't want to make anyone else sick. I think you should put this in God's hand sand let him guide you on what to do.
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More wise words....again, thank you everyone who took the time to respond. I know there's alot going on here and I don't want to monopolize the board, but this really helped. Thanks!!! Morus
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Hey God will understand. He knows your heart and I am sure your fellowship will too. You need to rest up with your cold some. I don't know about you but I feel it takes longer to get rid of with this fibro. take care marilyn
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Skip the retreat. You need your health and please don't feel guilty for taking care of yourself. It sure does not mean you love God any less. I send prayers for your healing and that you will get the rest your body and mind need. Hugs, sue
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You guys really are the best. Why on earth I/we put so much pressure on ourselves to be everything to everyone is beyone me. I wish I could overcome this tendency. It's really very frustrating.

Hugs to all! Thanks a mill!!!!
Morus
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I feel for you, honey. I don't have any good advice, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers!! I've been there...
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Im sorry Morus,
Please get some good rest if you can.Love Melinda
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Thanks for your thoughts and prayers guys...and I WILL definitely get a good rest tonight. I'm used to be tired with the fibro, but last night, I went to bed at 8 and slept until 6 am. It helped a bit...but I still feel like I could sleep forever. ugh....

Thanks again for everything. I don't feel so alone and like NO ONE understands. Even my friends at the church retreat can be a bit judgemental. My friend with MS seems to do better than I do with this stuff. They always compare me to her and tell me that I don't have it so bad.....

I know MS is serious stuff, but we ALL have our challenges....seems like you guys are the only ones who REALLY get it!!!

Love and thanks!
Morus
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