I am so sorry to hear that. Some people are just so depressed that they think it's their only way out. I wish I could take away the pain. The holiday season seems to take it's toll.

I am so sorry for your loss, and for your pain, and for the questions that no one can ever fully answer for you. I do understand; my life has been touched by suicide. All I can tell you is that the pain, physical and/or emotional, is more than the person can bear. I believe in some cases the person does not really intend to kill themselves, it is a cry for help, but goes further than intended. In other cases, the end result is exactly what was desired. What could possibly be that bad? I don't know, to most people, nothing seems that horrible, we think, I will get through this, I will get better, I will work it out. I guess the real bottom line is hopelessness; when one loses hope that it will get better, and believes that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, maybe it just seems easier to end the pain, grief, whatever the person is dealing with. I don't think they are emotionally able to comprehend what their act will do to those left behind, or they would not take that final step. Again, I am very sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

oh my dear sweet melinda...
I am soo very sorry to hear this. It is a difficult time of year for alot of people and most suicides happen this time of year. They are usually very depressed and when depression is very severe there is chemical imbalance in the brain that overtakes their mind of right and wrong...they don't realize how bad it is and are often not in a right place of mind and the chemical imbalance takes over...if anyone ever talks about suicide never take it lightly...suggest getting help..try and help them know what is going on is a chemical imbalance and there is help to fix it. I know you said that you haven't heard from him, so please sweetie don't feel guilty. I wish i could take the pain out of your life. this is a very difficult thing to overcome. but we are always here for you! We love you!!! Just know angels are taking care of him now...it is just not something you can comprehend right now but know that we are here for you with a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen woth and a heart full of love and support for you...
gentle healing hugs to you hun,
Love you
Tea

p.s. here if you need anything!!!!!

Melinda,
Pleae let me know via a message if there is anything that I can do for you. I will definitely keep you on my daily prayer list since I keep all of my friends on DS (that request prayers for them, family etc.) on my prayer list until the person has requested me to stop praying for them due to a miracle etc.

THE BIGGEST QUESTION MOST OF US HAVE MELINDA IS THE WHY? WHY WOULD THEY DO THIS AND WHY NOW? UNLESS A NOTE IS LEFT, IT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME AND EVEN WITH A NOTE YOU STILL HAVE THE SAME QUESTION. I AM SO SORRY FOR ALL OF THIS COMIG UPON YOU AT THIS TIME OF THE YEAR, I'M SURE THAT YOUR PAIN IS JUST HIGHER JUST TRYING TO DEAL WITH THE DEATH OF YOUR OWN STEPSON AND NOW THIS WILL OPEN IT UP AGAIN. MY HEASRT AND LOVE ARE WITH YOU ALWAYS MELINDA, I GRIEVE WITH YOU B/C I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. AS I SAID LAST TIME, I'LL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU DARLING, ONLY A PHONE CALL AWAY....IF YOU NEED ME, CALL OUT.....LOVE YOU SISTER.....HELEN

I am so sorry for your friend, his family and you. It is very painful when we lose someone we care about. It is even more horrible when they choose to die. I have felt depressed enough to die, but never enough to kill myself - if that makes sense. Many of us who are in extreme pain - physical or mental - may feel at moments in time that we would be better off if we never had been born, but these thoughts are usually temporary and we don't act on it. Many times when someone wants help and doesn't really mean to kill themselves, they will talk about dying and even make half hearted attempts at suicide. But when someone just out flat kills themself without giving anyone any clues - that is a real tragedy because they never give us a chance to help them. The holidays can be very difficult for many people. The only thing that we can do is check in on people we care about and let them know we love them. Ultimately, if they don't want us to know about their pain, there is no way we will find out they are hurting. I am truly sorry for your loss and pain, you are all in my prayers...hugs jilly

Melinda, I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. He must have been very depressed and thought this was the only way. He is at peace now. I wish I had the answer as to why but I don't. Please take care, Hugs, Keleee :)

Melinda, please find a good counselor to talk to. Yes, this is a terrible time of year for depression, and you need to be very aware of your own. God Bless You!

Hon, I am sorry about this.

sooo sorry for your loss. only the person who takes their own life knows why. once they make up their minds, no words or gestures will change them. so please do not feel guilty, I'm postive he wouldn't want you to feel that way. just remember the good times and that he is forever sleeping.

Oh Melinda, I am so very sorry..I have no answers as to the Whys of it all.
the only time I get suicide, is if someone has suffered thru a terminal illness...otherwise the afteraffects are devastateing...I will pray for you tonight Myfriend

People get so depressed thata they feel it will neer get better. They have a temporary (treatable) problem and unfortunately opt for a permanent solution.

It wreaks havoc on all those left behind. Guilt is the first thing that hits. So sad. I'm sorry you are going thru this. Try to keep your spirits up any way you can. Gentle hug to you, sue

Melinda, I am so sorry that you are again going thru something so sad and devestatng. I don't have any answers for you, I think a few previous posters said some very good things, but truly, I do not know why someone would take there own life.
I too have had those thoughts of , omg why do i have to go thru this pain day in and day out, if i werent alive i wouldnt feel this pain, but I would never take my own life. I always think of my kids and husband and what I would in turn do to them.
I can only tell you that I am here for you if you want to talk.
Maybe talking to a professional would help you. This could lead you into a deep depression, and I don't want to see that for you.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you right now.

I am so sorry to hear that x x Wish i could wrap my arms you and give you a big hug x x You are in my thughts and prayers x x Love Bex

MELINDA, I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN AND JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY BUT WE NEVER KNOW WHAT OTHERS ARE GOING THRU AND i THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR PAIN. TODAY I WILL REACH OUT TO SOMEONE WHO IS HAVING A DIFFICULT TIME AND HOPEFULY HELP SOMEONE.
THANKS SO MUCH AND I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY THOUGHTS.
LOVE BETTY