yes..allow yourself to FEEL it...then slowly start to distract from it...we have these DOWN feelings for a reason...learn to use these times to ur advantage...when I am down I talk to no one...do not answer the door or phone...I work THRU the issue at hand...if in a short time I do not come up with the solution...THEN I SEEK help...first thru distraction...you would be amazed how many answers have come to me when I was no longer focused on the issue...if that does not work I go straight to the source...you got papers...what kind of papers...who signed the papers....you have not only have to fight you have to have enough Desire to do so , so that OTHERS see it and are more likely to give you what you need to survive...I do it this way so i get a good handle on my thought process...if I go straight to the source before haveing thought anything out...they will see I am tired...they will see or FEEL my depression on the whole issue...and I will get no where...so take a bit of time....gather your strength and information....and get what you NEED

I'm so sorry you're feeling bad...I'm here if you ever want to talk or anything...I'll even try to tell you dumb jokes! You aren't alone, there are so many of us in the same boat with different circumstances. Be well and know you are a valuable, lovable, kind woman who has much to offer.
Hugs to you.

Thank you for telling us what happened. I along with other Christians here will pray for you daily. Please keep us updated on what goes on since we love you a whole lot.

I also am in the same wallowing hole. I have been here for weeks. I hate it, I don't know what it is for, and I too want to get up out of it. I hurt too. Amy, you arent alone, you've come to a supportive and loving site, we all know exactly what it feels like to be where you are now. So when its our time to be optomistic, and raring to go, thats when we can comfort those that are where we are now... cos you see we have been there.. it will pass.

I too will be going on long term disability through my work soon. I am really depressed that I cannot work and I lost a job that I truly loved. i feel useless and alone and like i have no future. But i do try to be positive (but its hard)- I try to look at it like i need this time for my body - i can't force my body to do things it cannot do. I have to be kind to my body and if that means going on long term disability then i have to. our lives are not over, just a different direction.
I am hear if you want to chat.

Thanks you guys for letting me know your there! It does help. I sometimes feel like everyone has gone on about their ways and I am left behind. I really hate this feeling.

You know, I worked very hard for many years and had big plans for my career. That now is gone. I was working to get my bachelors degree. That money is done the drain, a very large chunk I might add. That is so depressing.

I want you all to know that I know that I am not the only one with crushed dreams. I am sorry for the whinning. I usually am together but right now am in many pieces to which don't seem to want to go back together right now.

Keep the replies coming because it may trigger some ideas or make me go "OH Yea! I didn't think about that!". More heads are better than mine right now!

Amy

No real words of wisdom. You will have several good and bad times with your disability. At first you might enjoy the time off. When you have a disability or multiple disabilities spending time on yourself is very important. Try not to get bogged down. Depression can set in very quickly. Especially if you have always been active. Keep talking to supportive people. You are taking the most important step right now by reaching out here.

I can totally relate & agree with alot said here; especially Msboni's first statement about allowing your self to FEEL what you are feeling.

I like to refer to this info on grief & loss. The stages Kubler-Ross identified are:

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)

Depression (I don't care anymore)

Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)
(You can google the above for more complete info.)

Another great tool to survive our many losses is "How to survive the loss of a love". It has alot of good info about loss & is an easy read. Not sure who the author is.

Of course, when any mental & emotional pain turn toward thoughts of harming oneself, please reach out to your family or a professional. (Or us!)
You all will be in my thoughts & prayers...

I MYSELF THINK THAT THESE ARE VERY GOOD WORDS OF WISDOM....

Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives dO I give to you. Let not you hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid....JOHN 14:27