For me,anything can cause stress.There is stress in everything I do,even things I enjoy.A vacation away from all the things that cause stress can help,but eventually the fibro finds a way to come back.Life cannot be perfect.I am learning to slow down and accept the limits this disease puts on me.This means resting after I have a good day (which happens maybe 2 days a month).I pay for the activities of my good days in pain for a week sometimes.I agree that getting away from things and people that cause stress can be a short term relief,but I love my wife and know that she is normal and does not understand the pain that I have.She is my life and I would not change that for anything.Almost anything adds to stress in my case.I'm trying to be more patient with my with people that bother me.Most times this means getting away from them and being alone for a while.To gripe only makes things worse.Patience,silence and rest help me.

Yes!!
Sadly its true. But I have a Boyfriend.
One minute he acts comforting? Then the next not supportive at all?

Hi, I dont think hubbys cause fibro, but I do think that stress caused by a difficult marriage or relationship can certainly worsen symptoms, as can stress from any other source. My symptoms became very prominent during my marriage and did temporarily get better when I divorced my husband, but stress has a way of finding us and my symptoms got bad again, this is all in hindsight, I didnt know I had FM until a year after I left my husband , I now live with a wonderful man who is very supportive of me and helps me immensely with my flares, he is very ope to learning about fibro and he knows im my own worst enemy at times ...lol....Has your hubby done alot of reading about FM or does he isten when you tell him about it? The more he knows the more he can help...good luck to both of you , FM can be very hard on relationships as we all know , Hugs to you !

WOW! If I would get rid of all the things that cause me stress I would have to be living in a box in the middle of no where. Then I would probably stress about not having stress! lol My biggest stresses are also my biggest blessings. I don't think I will be getting rid of my hubby or kids so I guess I'll keep the stress to. Now my ex is a different story! lol Just kidding. If only I could train my hubby to rinse his plate and pick up his news paper and mail off the floor.......

OMG,my husband definately can cause a horrible flare up,if I am not to careful.As long as i dont take on his sh*t I am pretty stable.It is hard at times for he is in chronic pain as well.I dont think he caused my fibro,even though I got sick after being with him only 6mths,No just kidding.Fibro is a very complicated disease/Illness.May God help us all who have endured this.

AAAmen!!!!!

Many of my friends tell me the reason I got sick is because of my hussband and him putting so much stress on me. So I guess I can say Stress is more of the problem But, it sounds better to blame my husband now that we are going through a divorce and he is causing me more stress. I was never sick until I got married 19 yrs ago. Now I hate myself and I guess I let him do this to me. So, now I just fight to get life back.

i saw the discussion title and had to thank you for making me smile!Sure husbands and kids for that matter can aggrivate the fibro but then i'd probably be under even more stress if i had to do everything myself so i guess its catch 22.

I agree with the comments that say stress in general cause flair ups, and that in order to get around that we'd have to live in a box, and that my greatest stressors are also my greatest blessings. Hoever having said that, there are also toxic people in this world and it is extremely important to pick and choose amongst them when you have any chronic condition that leaves you in pain and energy depleted. Same with activities, jobs and chores etc. Good blessings on you making those choices.

i have stress to but not that bad . just dont let things get to me now. i think ive met my match we havent been seeing him long .but think he is keeper

I also have heard that stress can make fibro flare, but if you only knew what I am enduring these days, I can attest to the fact that I am still in "remission". In other words, my fibro is in control. I don't know why... medication? balance of diet and exercise? who knows, but I am not flaring and by all rights I should be.

My husband is not perfect (BIG SHOCK), and neither am I (EVEN BIGGER SHOCK), but to have a good marriage takes a lot of work. Maybe it's work that causes fibro. When I was working, my symptoms were bad, then when I stayed home and had to do the house work, I still had the symptoms but could take more breaks. Being a good mom is also a lot of work - so I say that maybe work is what causes fibro.

My fibro was worse while I was still married to the EX too. Something about abusive relationships can get stressfull... Although, part of the turn around I also give credit to my doctor because he found me a new med that helps too.
My flare ups are mostly only weather related now.

Weather definetly has a big affect on my symptoms. The cold freezes my muscles up and makes me ache all over and the joints can hardly move. Also, the exact right balsnce of pain meds is really important to me. Too much does no good and puts me under and too little and I'm screaming in pain. So there are ALOT of other factors besides toxic people in my life. I focus on what I CAN change.

I agree about work causing fM absolutely! Being on the job was the cause of so much pain and agony, even being on the computer for daily strength I have to be so careful. Taking care of my family is a real chore for me and I have learned to pace myself. I work a couple of hours no more doing chores and then lay down, then go back at it again, but never more than one or two hours at a time and even then I take alot of "coffee" breaks or tea breaks in between.