I'd take her to se your doctor(s) and let her talk to them. She sounds like she's in denial, but talking w/ your Drs could help that. She could ask all the questions she has and feel better because she has more than just your word for it.

(Now, please don't think that I* think she thinks you're a liar or exaggerating ...it's just that some folks trust a Dr's words more than ours, even tho WE have the illness.)

that's a good idea! thanks! i will do that once i get back to GA (as long as she doesn't keep me from going to the doctor). (i'm in CO at school right now, so it will have to wait)

I agree with Andiekins to bring her with you to the doc and rheumy.

Andiekins has a good idea. Take her to all your doctor appointments. And keep talking to her. Make sure she understands what will happen if you go off your meds.

I think I would think long and hard before I took her to the Dr. with me, I would talk with the Dr. first and make him aware of just why you are bringing her. I can tell you first hand I have seen pts, families put pressures on a doc. and get him to do things that both he and the patient did not want. Depending on your moms personality, she could talk him into having you go off your meds. I would cont. to try an educate her on the disease.I think it is important to keep in mind she is a mom and more than anythng they want to nuture, protect and make things better for their children. I am sure her intentions are good, and wants only the best for you.

I would try and not live with my mother but that is just me....My mom would do the same thing she would get me into the house and then she would make whatever changes she would see fit. I am sure that your mom cares alot but sometimes our parents think that they know better than we. Good luck with your mom

WE ALL KNOW THAT SHE MEANS WELL, BUT I THINK THIS IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE THAT SHE DOESN'T KNOW OR SEMMS LIKE SHE DOOESN'T WANT TO KNOW EITHER, BUT WITH YOU NOT BEING ABLE TO DRIVE PUTS A DAMPER ON IT. IT WOULD BE NICE IF YOU COULD FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO HAS IT TO TALK TO HER. I'M SURE THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN HER EVERYTHIG SHE NEEDS TO READ, MAN THIS IS A TOUGH ONE TO HELP WITH. I WIIL PUT YOU ON A PRAYER LIST THAT I HAVE AND PRAY THAT GOD WILL MAKE A WAY FOR YOU....LOVE...HELEN

Oh, I am gonna get chewed for this...but I am with ur mom...
I so swear I live in total denial of this DIS-EASE...everyday I think that I am going to feel better tomorrow...it happened once, it CAN happen again...
and every mom wants to believe if you are just Ill our love will just make ya better...all ya need is some good TLC and you will be up and around in NO TIME..
Ok, Now I know that is NOT reality...I know when my baby Tasha is sick I can not just Love her well...but somewhere in me I think if I just take all her stressors away she can concentrate on healing...and she is 27...not commin home to mama everytime she gets sick, sigh...but I am just saying I understand ur Moms denial...best to educate her...send her any and all related Info...I do not know that I would take her to the Dr. or not...there are Dr.s out there that tell ya if you just walk 5 miles a day you will feel better...yupp it is True...very few have a clue...even the ones that are Experts really have No idea...unless they FEEL the pain of it themselves...
ok...so let me have it..
I know it's commin..
good thing I have alot of Butt to chew !!

Bonnie

i think what you are saying is what i tried to explain to her. i tried to explain that she can't make me get better but she can help me feel better. aka, i will always be sick, but my symptoms can improve just as they can get worse. i told her that if she wanted to help, she could do things that would help with my symptoms but that she has to understand that before i move in that i won't be magicly cure by anything. i also told her that if she interferes with me taking my meds in any way, then i'm moving out (my brother lives near by so i can stay with him for a while if i need to)

cant make anybody understand something if they dont want to. Denial takes some time to get past, and some family members never get there. Focus on yourself first in all cases so you can be alright no matter what someone else thinks.

Don't forget to let your mom know that being under stress or pressure from others around you can also worsen your symptoms. That if she doesn't work with you and try to help you in the way you need it, then she may become part of the problem for you.

I definitely agree that taking her with you to the doctor so she can learn more about it is a good idea AFTER you have seen your doctor and let him/her know what is coming. Good luck on this...hugs jilly