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self-pity???? I am falling deeply into it lately and I'm venting it all over my husband and daughter by mean of anger. I grumble, cry, scream about things that shouldn't be such a bit deal. At work(mini-part-time job) I start to get stressed really easily. I find that I fall into a pity party really easily and I HATE the feeling.
I just don't know how to pull myself out of this. Just when I think I'm starting to see the sunshine, I start to fall back into the hole of darkness again. I wouldn't even call it depression. It's more like a TON of anger turned inward and when it gets to much..it goes outward at those around me. I seem to lose control.
I really don't like who I've become these days. I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling like a victim. Poor me gets very old, very quickly.
Please help.....does anyone have any tips on how I can pull myself up when I start to lose it......? I'm game for anything.....I just feel I'm slipping into a bitter hole.
Thanks to anyone who can help!
love and hugs....
Morus
I just don't know how to pull myself out of this. Just when I think I'm starting to see the sunshine, I start to fall back into the hole of darkness again. I wouldn't even call it depression. It's more like a TON of anger turned inward and when it gets to much..it goes outward at those around me. I seem to lose control.
I really don't like who I've become these days. I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling like a victim. Poor me gets very old, very quickly.
Please help.....does anyone have any tips on how I can pull myself up when I start to lose it......? I'm game for anything.....I just feel I'm slipping into a bitter hole.
Thanks to anyone who can help!
love and hugs....
Morus
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I have been there, done that. It got old.
I make myself get out and take a drive or a walk. Anything to get me out of the situation. Fibro will make you angry. But please try to think before you speak, and try not to hurt the very ones you love.
I like to lock myself in the bathroom, or my bedroom and just "veg" out for a while, too.
Thanks for this info, it put things in perspective. I'm going to have a talk with my hubby and daughter tonight so that if I suddenly disappear, they understand why and what I'm trying to achieve.
I know your answers may seem like common sense to some, but to me they are lifesavers because when you're in the depths of such an ugly emotion as self-pity, you can't think straight. You can't see the forest from the trees. And that forest can get pretty dark and nasty!?!
Thanks again, my friends and I wish you a happy and "pain-limited" day!!
Love, Morus
Thanks all! Morus....
prayers and hugs to you...
Bonniw
When you feel self pity, it makes you angry. Carry a little notebook around, when you are angry write down exactly what you are angry about. Do that for several days and you should see a pattern develop. Once you see the pattern, you can come up with some alternatives. That way you can learn to act and not react.
In your note book, write down how you know you are angry. Seriously. What happens in your body and mind that tells you to feel anger? Do that for about a week. Then send me a message.
Have you considered going to counseling? You are going through some heavy duty things and it might help you at this point. Not couples counseling, but individual counseling. You should be able to get counseling on a sliding fee basis at your local mental health center.
Gentle hugs to you!
Ah well, I will try harder and thanks for your VERY helpful input and understanding...I WISH we could get together for tea and cookies or something!!
Bonni, very true. But when does this grieving process end....? I have been fighting that the "old me" is gone for almost 10 years. I am not accepting it. I still want to jog for 2 miles, work a 40 an hour week and do it all! I can't get through to acceptance that I am who I am now and that's OK...it's not....ugh....self pity setting in...sorry....ughers. I really appreciate you guys being here...I DO!!!
Maglet, notebooks...I have them I LOVE to write...this is also a good idea.....and the counseling....well, the NY metro area....I've been quoted a minimum of 50 bucks for 40 minutes....don't have it. Don't know what to do. My insurance sucks too....I guess I have to see what Medicare might cover....
I feel overwhelmed by my life and my illness.....I know I am not alone...and I'm whining TOO much.
Hugs and MANY Thanks to you all!!! You are so invaluable to this board. Things on this board are SO great. We just have to ignore the negative stuff!!!!
Thanks again all.....for reading my stream of consciousness....
Morus
Hugs! morus