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Grrr, dumb questions people ask!

CarrieinSK
CarrieinSK
Okay, I decided to get the flu shot. I work at 2 senior care homes and 1 Long Term Care home at a hospital. I can't risk them getting influenza.

Fast forward to sitting at the nurse's area. I said why I was putting off getting the flu shot, was that I was waiting to see if there was a mercury-free shot. They didn't have one. I told her that I have Fibromyalgia and didn't want to put anything toxic into my body.

Here's her DUMB question, get ready for this.....

Have you been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia?

HELLLLLLOOOOO! Would you ask someone who has cancer if they were diagnosed with it? Would you ask a heart patient with heart disease if they've been diagnosed with heart problems???? NOOOOO! I am spitting mad and going to confront her on this question. I felt it was degrading and personally none of her damn business! She is not my doctor or a nurse at my doctor's office.

I just looked at her and said "uh yea!"

RANT: I can't stand when I get put off guard with stupid, idiotic questions like this!

OFFRANT! :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
She might be used to people who self diagnose based on their symptoms and a quick internet search. She may have just wanted to make sure you have a true diagnosis from a doctor and weren't just assuming you have something that might be something else like MS, Lupus, RA, etc.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is sad to say but there are alot of people who don't have tact, elegance, and grace when it comes to social manners. No it isnt right that they asked you that. It is none of their business. However, they were probably trying to see if you hadnt been diagnosed then they could ahve come back with the.. "well if you havent been diagnosed. then how do you know you ahve it? and if you ahvent been diagnosed we can't give you your mercury free shot" it was their way to find an excuse not to pursue your request. but they would have one if it was necessary i.e. if someone in the ER or an elderly person needed one for whatever reason..they would get one for them...it was just an excuse...and it is amazing how little they know of fibro otherwise they wouldnt be asking stupid questions like that...its like "no lady i am a walking paranoid hypochondriac..thanks so much for asking" sheesh...dang people...soryr i got upset too..dont sweat it too much..it is just their ignorance.

tink
CarrieinSK
CarrieinSK
I guess what I get most upset about is that people wouldn't have to "self diagnose" if some of these damn doctors would start doing their job.

Also, there are people that have had to "self diagnose" due to doctors not believing that FMS exists and that doesn't make it any less real.

I also felt that it had nothing to do with her giving me a flu shot. I had talked to my doctor about the flu shot already which is why I asked for the mercury-free one.
deleted_user
deleted_user
the other responses are probably right, but it also could have been a brain fart, just running mouth before engaging brain kind of thing..the sort of thing people say when they're surprised by something. Like if you said, I went to old Mrs. Whos funeral last week, and the person you're talking to says, Oh, did she die?.............. Well, yeah I hope she wasn't still alive!.. Just one of those blibs, you m aybe caught her off guard
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ladybug, those kind of questions reminds me of Bill Engval's "NOPE. HEEEERES'S YOUR SIGN" kind of moment.

I guess we need to stock up and carry them around for these instances.
deleted_user
deleted_user
vent away. It is frustrating when even the nurses as well as doctors seem to know nothing about what we go through. marilyn
CarrieinSK
CarrieinSK
LOL, Ladybug, thanks for making me laugh about this. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
anytime, darlin'
deleted_user
deleted_user
well...I usta talk with this one girl quite a bit...we were not really friends...just aquaintances...she had told me she had this...but her symptoms were so completely different from mine...one day I made the comment about how bad my muscles ached and she says...that MUST really suck...so I looked at her and ASKED the same stupid Question..."Have you been DIAGNOSED with FM" ?...she said "Not by a Dr. but I read about it on the Internest and it kinda sounds like the way I feel"...I just did not even respond to that...what could I say ?...but it did make me understand how ALOT of people get their Diagnosis...now in reality...she may have it...cause I went undiagnosed for years...and actually I did not have the constant muscles aches at first...just the on and off flu like symptoms would come and go...so the next week when i stopped in I asked her if she had been to see a rhuemy yet...she had not, I suggested that she do it...
deleted_user
deleted_user
just curious- how has your body responded to the vaccination? My PCP told me not to get the shot because it would cause a flare, and my rheumy told me to get one because people with lupus are at high risk.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree. Here's your sign.

Sorry for the ignorance from the med. profession Carrie.

BTW how is your son?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would have said, "I won't even dignify that question with a response"!

Some people just lack couth...
deleted_user
deleted_user
bloody idiot aint she
deleted_user
deleted_user
LoL!! I can picture it..
deleted_user
deleted_user
people never think before speaking.

Ever have someone call you and ask if your phone number was still......

Or is your birthday still..........

God I love them

Ouch
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