Mine is being realy great. He goes in the dr apt with me and he has all kinds of questions for them and what the next move is!!!

He probley is in denial. I know my husband is and I think hes afraid that his sense of sucerity is gone. I've allways done everything from raising the kids to paying bills. I don't think that he wants to handle all of the responsiblty. Good luck to you. Hope your day is going well.

maybe you can have him read on line about our disease.I educated my guy by having him read alot on fibro and by going to the DRs appointments with me with..I sent my family videos on you tube about fibro so its right there in there faces.Good Luck honey!!!!!!!

Sounds like it Lacey. My hubby was in denial for 2 years, until he hurt his back and was home for 3 weeks, he saw what I was like 24/7 for that time, poor sod went into shock!! It is so hard for our loved ones to see us in pain, knowing there is nothing they can do to make the pain go away. He needs more time. Warm thoughts and hugs, Owlxx

If this is an anomaly in your relationship and he is making it clear that he loves and supports you I wouldn't worry too much yet. It could be fear or denial or both. If you don't have a therapist or counselor I would get one. It will allow you to discuss everything you are going through in depth and that may ease some awkwardness with him. The therapist should also be able to facilitate a more open dialogue with your husband. I know it's painful when the people we love most just don't seem to get it.

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to discuss it or told him that you would feel better if he would talk with you about it? Sometimes the direct approach is best. Good luck, sweetie. sue

My hubby says it is Partially in my head....grrrr...this makes me mad when he says this. Course his mom thought the very same thing about depression. When her hubby pasted away, I saw her w/ a bottle of Zoloft...I SOOOOOOO wanted to say something but I did not. Take care.

He may not understand fully what you are going through or maybe in denial. My hubby has only made one sarcastic remark...I ended up poking him in the arm really hard and saying "see, that's what I'm feeling, only all over my body!" from then on, he was great!!!

Totally in denial...I think my husband accepts this DIS-EASE even more then I do...he talks to his Dr. about me...goes with to all my appointments...researches and has found a few ways to actually help me since i can take No meds...he has always known me "Sick"...has seen me perhaps a bit spunkier then I am right now...he admitted to me at first he was scared...but that once he knew he accepted me that he accepted ALL of me...thru sickness and in health...I have a great big gorgeous husband that Loves me Crazy...every Woman deserves that...
perhaps someday when all is quiet...tell him you would like to talk to him...take him for a slow walk where all is calm so nothing is gonna distract him from you...he needs to be there...he needs to help you thru this...he needs to understand...he needs to accept...I guess i do too...have lived with the constant thought that I am gonna wake up and this is gonna simply be gone...sigh

Could be... guys like to "fix" things - his mind might be on what he can do to make things better for you? My hubby got me a mattress pad that's heated, for instance. I also like AZSue's suggestion of the direct approach. Soft hugs,. Deb

MEN LIKE TO FIX THINGS AND IF THEY CAN'T FIX IT, THEY DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT, THAT'S PROBABLY WHERE HE IS OR DENIAL. I NEED MINE TO BELIEVE ME! HE DOES, BUT I DON'T KNKOW HOW I'D ACT IF HE DIDN'T....HLENE

I agree with males needing to fix things, and if they can't then they don't quite know what to do - guys just DON'T GET that sometimes we just need to talk about stuff and get things off our chest.

Sometimes I get a little nasty if my hubby decides to go mentally awol for a while. I start ignoring his washing - if you ignore it then it just goes away doesn't it????

Maybe he is just afraid for you and does not know how to relate to you about it. found that to be the case with my husband.

Gosh...why does this have to be so hard??? It is true that men come "wired" to fix things , I went thru a spell like yours where hubby seemed to accept it but wouldn't really discuss it with me.We had a long talk about how it made me feel better just to talk about what was going on in my head ,that I have a doc who is trying to "fix" me , and that I needed him to just be a sounding board for me. He knows that I have had a lot of therapy and how I feel about talking.It was a turning point in our relationship , he said he felt relieved to know I was not expecting him to do anything other than listen and offer his honest opinion.I talk to him about what I learn in my research ,and try to keep him involved with what the doc says.We still go thru spells where we both go into denial...it has taken us 3 years to get to a point where we can discuss this comfortably. Good luck.