I wish I could say I didn't understand what you are talking about. However, I know all too well. Best wishes, Peggy

Wish I could say I don't understand but I do. Dishes and vacauuming are two of the worst things for me. Just leaning over the sink long enough to rinse the dishes and put them in the dishwasher is enough to do me in. Hubby would do it but can't/won't ask him to do everything.

laundry and vaccuming is the worst for me.

OH SWEETY, I WENT THROUGH THAT YEARS AGO. I COULDN'T DO ANYTHING. YOU FEEL HELPLESS. IT WILL GET BETTER OVER TIME. DON'T GET DISCOURAGED. ALL YOU CAN DO IS TRY. POSSITIVE ATTITUDE HELPS TOO. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. DON'T DO EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE. TODAY DO DISHES EVEN IF IT TAKES YOU HOURS. THE REST CAN WAIT.
MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU.
HUGS AND LOVE NANCY

I can so totally relate!! My heart is wanting to do things that my body just will not let me do anymore!! It KILLS my back to lean in to even wash veggies off or to make a sandwich, let alone trying to load the dishwasher, especially the bottom!! I have piles of mail because I don't have the strength to even sit and go through it. I am caught up on most of my bills because I have switched over to paying them on the computer, but I still have to sort through the mail to make sure I have caught all of them and there are things in there I need. You know what I mean? lol!!

This is fresh on my mind today because our son, who is 18, complained again last night that I'm still in my pj's at noon most days and eating my cereal. He figures I should get up early like I used to and eat breakfast at breakfast time and lunch at lunch time. He expressed frustration at the fact that I used to have everything caught up and the piles are getting to him. I think it is because it shows just how sick I really am and it bothers him to see me that way.

He wonders how things are going to get done as far as dishes, vaccuuming, mopping, once he moves out. He does those chores because he lives here, plus it is in exchange for us to make his $60 a month car payment for him. His dad told him that we did all of the housework before he was born and while he was little, so we will manage after he moves out. I'm thinking we'll probably hire a maid to come at least twice a month, lol.

We explained to him also that dad is tired on the weekends from working all week and taking care of me, running to the store, cooking a few nights, etc. Plus, he has a medical condition that causes fatigue.

Sorry if I got to talking too much, lol. I have had this built up since last night. I cried and cried last night because I feel so badly that I can no longer take care of things like I used to. I'm with you, it is frustrating for sure!!

Big hugs,
Sheri

I'm so sorry you feel that way today! :( Or how about trying to open a jar and it hurts so bad you just say FORGET IT! We have days and moments like that from to time... Just remember the dishes wont go anywhere. Just leave it be and go rest.. who cares? Let the house go to pot for a little bit. You will clean it soon!
HUGS and hope
you have a better night :)

don't do much of anything. tried to. did it for years. retired now. don't even answer the phone. adult daughter moved back in and i'm glad to have her. her help is wonderful. sorry for her but good for us. wish i could get her to go out more. so i do hoping to motivate her. she's only 38 and feels defeated. life gets so much harder. can't tell her this. glad we still have the old house with room for her. she even fills the car for me.

I know how you feel.......I guess we just have to keep pushing and pray that we will finally get the relief that we need. I hope you are better tomorrow. ~Rebecca~

Ouchy. Hope you feel better tomorrow. Sometimes my mom and I switch off: she loads upper rack, I take bottom--whichever one of us can bend over.

So sorry Dolphin....hope you are feeling better soon!!!

HUGS

My house is pretty much a disaster area - thinking about applying for aid but FEMA would probably come and condemn it and put me in a trailer LOL

I have a friend who is retired on disability who needs money, and I need help, so we help each other out. She comes twice a week and cleans the kitchen and whatever else she can get to (depends on how awful the kitchen is whether she has time and energy to do more). I'm off on Friday so when she comes on Friday she and I do it together, and take a lot of breaks.

When its just me and Jon, we do like ChaCha and take turns with the upper and lower rack, and when we put them away, we do that together as well. It gets done twice as fast, and neither of us has to work that hard.

You just do whatever you have to do - and don't stress about what doesn't get done. Your health and well-being is much more important than a few dishes or a little dust.

You might check out www.flylady.net for tips on how doing a little each day can help you keep things presentable (not perfect). I can't even muster the discipline to do that little stuff after I work all day - I usually come home and park myself on the bed with the laptop and I'm done for the day.