thinking positive thoughts helps some as does taking slow deep breaths for me anyways. And take mind off of the pain sights and concentrate on something else.

Dealing with fibro you pretty much go through the same grieving steps that you go through when you lose a loved one.....the whole denial, anger, blaming, etc. You just work your way through it until you learn to accept your limitations. We all know that in order to do some of the things that we want or have to do to keep our spirits up and to maintain any kind of a life, we are going to pay a price afterwords. You just learn to plan and schedule things.

I have learned that going through my house in a day like a little tornado and getting it clean are something of the past. If I manage to get the floors clean in one day, I'm happy.....tomorrow or the next day, maybe the kitchen.

But to live any kind of a life at all, you have to learn to "pace" yourself. Figure out how much you can do with out over taxing yourself.

Sorry that you qualify to join our group. But you can't find a more supportive and understand group. There isn't much that at least one of us hasn't gone through at one time or the other.

Welcome to the group! Gentle hugs...
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Thank you for your reply hun,I will give it a go. xxx

You BET I am angery!!Because of the things I have lost. I used to work full time and bring in about 300 to 350 dollars a week. And I loved to go hiking ,camping,jetski, snowsking,motorbike riding horseback riding. And know I have had to find othe things to take there place. But I also have so many things to be thankful for!! I now have a husband who loves me and doesn't concider me a hypocondriac. And I have three loving daughters and by darned I am still here and I do have my life. Even though it is a painful one I am still here. And I have all of my friends here on DS who know exactly what I am going through!! Life is to short to always stay mad!! There are always going to be bends in the road, all you can do it focus on that next bend and make it there. Then when you make it there focus on the next and make it there and so on.You have such a great famliy!!Focus on them!! Focus on that love!!That is what I have tried to do. Yeah there have been a lot of bumps(my health) but we are still here!! Love Ya Girl!!XXXXXXXXXXXXX's

Yes I am. Sooo angry. I am trying to keep my job and it is a struggle. Came home from work today. I couldn't hold a darn thing and I felt like my whole body is shaking. I am losing all the stuff that was important to me. Its like no one understands me. Thank god for the wonderful people here-I feel normal here.

Tho I Still get Angry...Like Now because I have so Much to do, and No where Near the Ability to do it all...I get Angry....Angry with Self cause I feel Like perhaps I DID something to bring this on...Angry with researchers that Cannot seem to Figure us out, Angry at Dr. Friends Family members who Look at us like we are Over stating our Pain...

very Normal !!

But Mostly I have Accepted this, that I now have to figure out New ways to do things...and I have also Realized that it is Not all bad Afterall...becasue I really Believe this Illness has made a better person out of me...I Understand so Much more, I am More Giving, More Comapssionate to others...I appreciate things now on a whole New level...

but still, at times..Anger and Complete Frustrations will occaisionally Rule my World !! as Long as with ANY Negative Emotion, you do Not allow it to stick around To Long, you can use it to your Advantage...after awhile you start seeing More good then bad...embrace the Good that has come with this !!

hugs !!

Thank you all.I really apreeciate that you have taken the time to read and reply to this,it really means alot.It also helps me to know that what I am feeling is 'normal' and that you all know just where I'm at,THANK YOU xxxxx

I think most of us still get angry. I think being angry can be healthy as long as we don't hang on to it or feel guiltly because we're angry. Anger comes with it's own energy use that energy to get you motivated. Direct that anger into something positive. I've always cleaned when I'm angry and I still do. If it's nice out and I'm angry I go outside and pull weeds out of the garden. One thing I think about is getting a punching bag but for me it would have to be a kids blow-up one or I'd hurt myself.

One thing you don't want to do is direct that anger on yourself and hold on to it because than can lead to serious depression.

One day I was home by myself and I was angry. I decided to clean the cat litter box. I don't usually scream or swear but I was screaming and swearing real loud. So loud I didn't hear the back door open. My brother came up to the bathroom door and causiously asked if I was ok. I just looked at him and started laughing he's never heard me screaming or swearing before. For me This does help to let go of the anger but I usually make sure no one hears me.

I hope this helps

Sending Hugs and Prayers

Sometimes life just seems so overwhelming and since we can't do what we used to do it really can take its toll on us. I like to have two lists one for good days of the things I want to get done when body and mind can work together. Then another list for when either the body or mind just don't seem to work. That way I feel like I have done something for myself and family and I get the satisfaction of having at least a bit of control over my fibro. Sometimes I just can't do anything so I always have some back up plan to try something, anything and hopefully I can get out of bed and do it, if not hey at least I tried.

Fibro is triggered by something, isnt it? At least that is what I understand?

If I have that correct, I know what triggered mine and you bet I am angry with that source. I cant seem to reconcile it with my heart yet and get over what triggered mine.

Jadedgirl maybe it would help if you looked at like there was this time bomb built into our bodies and there are a number of things that could have trigger it. Just because you might be able to pinpoint the trigger doesn't mean it wouldn't have gone off by another trigger even if the first trigger didn't happen.

Also if it was a time bomb built into our bodies none of us had any control over it.

Hugs

Thats, true, Maryca. Hugs

I feel more sad than angry. Sad about not being able to do the things my husband and I have planned for 35 years. We were both very athletic, our children are athletes, grandkids, very active and healthy, thank GOD. Our retirement will probably have to be re-planned. So i'm sad....

I feel more sad than angry. Sad about not being able to do the things my husband and I have planned for 35 years. We were both very athletic, our children are athletes, grandkids, very active and healthy, thank GOD. Our retirement will probably have to be re-planned. So i'm sad....

sometimes i get angry. but i do try to accept where i am in my life and get on with the things that matter to me. there are far worse illnesses and at least this one doesn't show. i found out my husband values me regardless of how productive i can be. this was great news to me as my nuclear family judged and weighed if you were lovable or not. it's a waste to stay too angry because it uses up what little energy we have. i try to stay warm and comfortable and i exercise 5 days a week, so i try hard to be healthy. i eat carefully, only what will do me good and i treasure the few friends who still accept me as is.