first of all you are not a burden,,,ppl that were once used to us being super moms or super wives now have to step it up a little.i get the same thing,but in the itimate dept.if he don't get at least 3 times a week,i have to listen to constant whining.i'm sorry you are feeling so down,know that we are here for you and once again you are not a burden.love and big gentle hugs,dawn

p.s. i love your avitar..try and have a good night

Thank you for your reply. My hubby even stopped making love to me a long time ago. We have not been intimate in 6 months. He blames me for that, but I am not the one that moved out of the bedroom.

Thank you for your reply. My hubby even stopped making love to me a long time ago. We have not been intimate in 6 months. He blames me for that, but I am not the one that moved out of the bedroom. As for the avitar, it was painted by a friend of mine

oops, sorry for the double post

HE is the 'burden'. Sorry your hurting so bad.

I actually don't feel like a burden yet, but I was just talking with a friend about this subject. My husband wants to retire next year and has all kinds of plans to travel etc. I don't want to ruin his retirement . I worry that I won't be able to do all the things he wants me to do. He isn't very patient when I say I dont want to go, or I'm too tired. He can get nasty too. What are we supposed to do , just suck it up and push ourselves? I love him so much, we have been married for 35 years. Sometimes I worry that all of our plans will go down the drain. Sorry for rambling, I really do hope you can get past the nastyness and try to have fun with your husband.

You're NOT a burden!!
I see in your profile that he is emotionally/verbally abusive toward you. I also see you are very Christian -- do you beleve you cannot leave him, or do you not want to? I respect your beliefs, but he really should NOT treat you this way. None of this is your fault.
Please know that you are not worthless, either.

I haven't been active with my hubby n like...almost 2 years, I think? We cuddle, though, so we haven't lost touch. You say he moved out of the bedroom? Is he open to marriage counseling or anything?

my husband has no intention of changing, he has said that so many times.

Are you open to leaving? Or able to do so? I know it's hard....

I am seriously considering it. And have a case worker lined out that is willing to help me find somewhere to go. Right now, I am keeping my options open.

If this man can't understand then its up to you to do something--whether you decide to leave him or simply learn to take care of yourself. You have a choice--put up with his abuse or make your mind up that you deserve better than that. Yes, your pain is real but it's so much more pronounced because of the way HE is treating you.

Good. The stress you're under just from him could make your symptoms much worse!
Hugs...we're here...

He is a pain in the butt literally.

Sooo srry anyone has to feel this way, but no hun, your not alone. Been there and still am. I try to push myself and it never feels good enough. What I feel happy about accomplshing is what a child could but it is a lot for me at times.
I have been feeling this way for a few months, that is why my Dr. suggested a councilor.
You are right, we didn't ask for this, and no one understands us but us (I'm not sure we even do) but we are all here togather so I hope you will feel better knowing we are here for you.
Try to have a good night dear, your not a burden. Hugs!!!