I have 5 kids, 3 are diagnosed with Fas and one is getting tested this winter. the other is our biological. We adopted these 4 kids last year and things seemed to be going ok. I mean as far as ok can take you in this situation. My oldest boy is 9 almost 10 years old and he has been a handfull!! He started stealing from us in the middle of the night when we were all sleeping so we put one of those window alarms on his door so every time he gets up we could hear him and go see what he was doing. it worked for a while but he really hated it. So i think as a sort of retaliation he started peeing in his room all over the carpet, the window, and even down the heater vent. It's really starting to get expensive to clean this up. He has convinced himself that the reason he does it is because we lock him in his room and thats what he tells people. Absolutly not true!! he is told that if he has to get up to go to the bathroom then do so, just know that we will get up and check on you. he still tries to blame it on us and takes no responsibility for it at all. We finally decided to put a hospital urinal in his room so he felt like he had somewhere else to go to the bathroom than the floor. it's only been a couple of days so we'll see if this works. His lying is out of controll for 9 years old and he is very manipulative. is this normal? does anyone know if this is normal FAS behavior or is this willfull disobedience. we still haven't been able to figure it out. We need to stop this soon before his little brothers who also have FAS catch on and begin to copy their big brother. Any advice is welcome. Were doing the best we can with a pretty crappy situation. We live in a very rural area and there aren't any support groups or anything around here so were kinda on our own with this. Thanks
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