Female Sexual Issues Support Group
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...
i wrote a post on here a week or so ago explaining about my partners erection problems. since then things have been better, im trying my hardest to understand that its prob not about me being ugly or whatever and im trying to be there for him so thankyou to everyone who offered advice to me.
well he is 100% convinced this problem is psychological,he believes it is bacause of a slight injury he occured with me one night, although nothing serious he assures me it hurt a lot! ever since then its like hes been scared of it happening again, which has made me more reserved for fear of hurting him, plus the first few times he lost his erection during sex my reaction was prob not the best and a couple times i did go off in a serious mood about it so the combination of my mood when it had happened and the fear of hurting himself is putting so much pressure on him, is there anything i can do to try and relax him? or take his mind of it? im really open to absolutly anything. ive heard tantric sex helps? does anyone know? i didnt know whether massage would help? it has crossed my mind to go out buy some kinky undies to try and take his mind off it that way but not sure if this is right way to go about it? i dont know if this will constantly be in his head whatever we do or if there is anything, if anyone has any tips or anything that has worked for them please please let me know. i really wanna help my man and give him some positivity. thanks a lot
well he is 100% convinced this problem is psychological,he believes it is bacause of a slight injury he occured with me one night, although nothing serious he assures me it hurt a lot! ever since then its like hes been scared of it happening again, which has made me more reserved for fear of hurting him, plus the first few times he lost his erection during sex my reaction was prob not the best and a couple times i did go off in a serious mood about it so the combination of my mood when it had happened and the fear of hurting himself is putting so much pressure on him, is there anything i can do to try and relax him? or take his mind of it? im really open to absolutly anything. ive heard tantric sex helps? does anyone know? i didnt know whether massage would help? it has crossed my mind to go out buy some kinky undies to try and take his mind off it that way but not sure if this is right way to go about it? i dont know if this will constantly be in his head whatever we do or if there is anything, if anyone has any tips or anything that has worked for them please please let me know. i really wanna help my man and give him some positivity. thanks a lot
Wilson
Just be patient with him and if he can't perform don't get upset with him. If he got an injury while you were having sex it will take a little time before he gets brave enough to put it out of his head. Having an erection problem is not something that you chose to have so it is not his fault and it is not your fault. Getting in a bad mood or putting him down will only make it worse.
ChicagoDave
I sent you a message in reply to your related post and never even got the courtesy of an acknowledgement so have no idea of your opinion on the use of ED drugs to at least rule out one possible cause. But here's another bit of advice - you're asking questions about what kind of male response to expect to a largely female audience. Try posting in the Healthy Sex community and you might get a balanced response. (As you can see, the first two replies to your new post with no less than three exclamation points in the title are from men.) Lastly, relaxation therapy such as massage can be a great help. Try a couple of times to give him a massage without sex...just a nice rub down. Finish with a very, very light touch. If he likes it, try doing it topless and creating more of a body to body experience. Tantra (and yes, I've studied and applied it over the years) is better used after some of these issues as to the cause are resolved. It can and is used for treating people with some dysfunction, but you really should try to find out what you're dealing with first. Good luck.
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sorry i didnt reply to your message i was so busy that day and i did completely forget.
Marah
Imagine if you were hurt while having sex. You might be a little gun shy. Maybe some massage that you let him know ahead of time doesn't have to lead to sex. No pressure. And remember, it isn't your fault, it isn't his either.
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