hi, i'm new to this group and really just wanted to ask for some sdvice. i have som sexual "issues", i.e. suspicions of having been sexually abused that i'm working on figuring out, i was raped several times in the last few years, and was pretty much sexually inactive (other than masturbation) until i was about 19 or 20. I had a very hard time having intercourse initially as it was very painful, but the real prob i'm having now is that i can't seem to have an orgsm when i'm having sex - whether its actual intercourse, oral, manual, whatever. Bascially only i can do it for myself, and not even in front of anyone. the person i have been with lately gets frustrated because he feels bad and feels like i'm not getting anything out of it which is not true, but still no one has ever been able to make me come but myself. i know this is a complicated issue with all kinds of other things intertwined with it and ultimately need to work on with my therapist, but does anyone have any theories, suggestions, advice? Positions don't seem to matter - well they do, but not in terms of actually putting me over the edge. I'm kinda frustrated bout this and don't really get why I just can't seem to have an orgasm unless i do it myself.
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