
Female Sexual Issues Support Group
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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First off, I'm most definitely straight.
But...I can't stand looking at that *certain male part* Hell, I can't even hardly say the word. I don't like giving a blowjob, or a handjob for that matter. For the most part I enjoy sex...although many times after it's over I feel horrible. At that point I usually don't want to be touched, and don't even want to be around the guy. This always happens when it's jsut casual sex, but it does happen even when I'm with someone I care about.
Also...I'm a borderline who self-injures, both of which are supposed to be indicators of someone who's been sexually abused. I don't have any memories of ever being abused, but this in combination with all my hangups about sex is really starting to make me wonder.
I have no idea how to figure out if this happened or not. But even if it didn't, I don't know how to get over all these issues...practice sure isn't making perfect.
But...I can't stand looking at that *certain male part* Hell, I can't even hardly say the word. I don't like giving a blowjob, or a handjob for that matter. For the most part I enjoy sex...although many times after it's over I feel horrible. At that point I usually don't want to be touched, and don't even want to be around the guy. This always happens when it's jsut casual sex, but it does happen even when I'm with someone I care about.
Also...I'm a borderline who self-injures, both of which are supposed to be indicators of someone who's been sexually abused. I don't have any memories of ever being abused, but this in combination with all my hangups about sex is really starting to make me wonder.
I have no idea how to figure out if this happened or not. But even if it didn't, I don't know how to get over all these issues...practice sure isn't making perfect.
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Self injuring is very common amongst sexually abused people, but it's by no means the only cause. Sometimes, it's a result of having been brought up in a home where angry feelings were discouraged and/or neglect, whether physical or emotional took place. Or for other reasons.
Perhaps your being a borderline and self injurer is tied to your current sexual difficulties (in fact, it's probably likely) but then again, perhaps not.
Therapy is good for sorting pit this kind of stuff!!
Good luck!!
i'm told there are lots of things that can be done to clarify these things in therapy. Try and find a therapist who specializes in sexual abuse and see how it goes? Some are better then other i hear, so take your time. Best case scenario is that you will know one way or the other.
I'm sorry your going through this =/ it's just a horrible feeling. *hugz* but your not alone