Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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how to let go

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how do you let go , when your having sex and you really want one, how can you let go of whatever it is that stops you from having one?
why cant i have one with another person there, im fine when alone but when partner is there,nothing, its not fair, i wouldnt even mind if it wasnt through penetration, but even with him in the room would be good ??
i need help i want to know how ?? i fear im in danger of destroying my relationship coz ive had enough and its not fair !! i'll just not bother eventually !!!
CarlaBentley
CarlaBentley
It sounds as though you may have a fear of true intimacy. I find that if I don't really, really trust the other person, I'm in the same place that you are in now.
And it's not always that the other person isn't truly trustworthy. It's often a problem within ourselves that keeps us from letting our guard down. A fear or shame that prevents us from letting our real self be seen.
I used to feel like if they did see the real me, they wouldn't love me anymore.
Of course, the problem with that is that you never feel loved anyway, since it isn't the real you whom they are loving.
For me, I wasn't able to get past this until I had some really good therapy.
But whatever is going on in your case, I hope that you manage to find your way past it and that you are able to relax and enjoy yourself with your partner!!
Good luck and take care!!
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