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How can I NOT "squirt" when I orgasm?

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Ok, some people find it sexy when a girl squirts and, obviously, some find it revolting. My girlfriend refuses to go down on me when we're together because I tend to "squirt" whenever I cum. I wouldn't even mind, but, honestly, it's ALL one-sided, not just the oral sex. If we're grinding, I'm on top. If it's oral, I'm pleasing her. If we're even just making out, I start pushing her buttons and she can't focus on what she's doing for enjoying what I'm doing. I can deal with that, though, as long as I can get SOMETHING out of it. She tried rubbing my clit and I got off, but the second time she did that I squirted on her leg and I didn't even get to finish for her freaking out. And, honestly, she gets a little too rough with that anyway. But, if she can't have me squirting on her leg, she surely won't want me squirting in her mouth. So how do I stop myself from doing that? I want her to go down on me sooo bad, but she's not going to if I can't control that. Is there any way to train yourself not to? Or am I just shit out of luck?
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Hi, well you are lucky few who can do that. Try to enjoy it. BUT, you can control when it happens. I used to not know how when I was a teen ager and it was sort of embarressing, but as I got older I learned how to do it only when it was convienient because it can be offensive to some not to mention messy! So, just practice with your muscles that make your pee stop and start. It is the same muscles. Just do these exercises that will strengthen those muscles like when you are peeing, stop it and then start again. Then just several times a day you can do the same exercise a bunch of times in a row. There is a name for this exercise which escapes me right now. Also, becoming more aware of when it is going to happen so you can stop the stimulation while the sensation passes without squirting. Good luck!
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Kegel exercises...lol...yeah, I've tried that, but I didn't see much of a difference. I can stop it. I got that part down. I just can't have an orgasm, especially not a good one, without squirting. Most of the time when I stop and just let it pass over me, it ends up making me squirm and whimper and want more, not have an orgasm without ejaculating...
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you are lucky! i can't even hardly orgasim at all, and when i do it's nothing (getting wet wise), i wish i could squirt for my fiance'! it would make things a lot better sex wise!
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http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm is a lesser example of one, but if you google it or search on yahoo, you can actually fnd some pretty good how-to's. That's my problem. I can find how to, just not how not to...
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Your squirting would be viewed by many as HOT. I know many guys and a few women who find lots of wetness and yes squirting as a desireable trait.
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hey your girl should be happy then she knows that your not faking. SOmetimes wheni cant cum kev feels bad so i'll fake and he doesn't have a clue
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I squirt--big time and can't help it. I had never done that until I met this last guy I was dating--the sex was that good
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i do that too!! go us!!! it's not gross. it's sexy ;)
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hahaha okay...i can't help but post this!!!
from the link MOwens posted:

"Most women would prefer to have their fingernails ripped out one by one rather than be seen having an "accident," menstruating in public."
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