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Girl on top--freaks me out

deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok, this is kinda weird, but I figured there's no harm in asking. I get so nervous and flustered when I'm on top because...well...I don't know what to do! I can never seem to move the right way. Does anyone have any advice/positions/something? My friend told me not to go up and down, but to go back and forth...and I dunno, maybe I just don't have the stamina or I'm being to gentle or something, but I never know what I'm doing!
GiveMeWings
GiveMeWings
being on top is one of the best positions. you are in control. to get comfortable with the back and forth motion... try getting on top of him when he is sitting up - lets say you are one the floor and he is up against the couch or something. you can rock back and forth and in this position it will be easier for you to feel the different parts of your body and what feels good to you, as you get the hang of it, let him lat flat... practive makes perfect. before you know it, you will be rocking and sliding all over the place. try it backwards...lol. all in all, you have to try something to see what works best for you. as long as he is cool with you experimenting and lets you take your time to figure it out, you'll be fine. :) hope that helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
relax and move the way you feel is comdortable....get into your sexuality.... and his....move to your on rythem!
deleted_user
deleted_user
sorry for the spelling
CarlaBentley
CarlaBentley
Well, only the guy you're on top of can be the judge of that -- of whether or not it's the 'right way'!!! And even then, he can only speak for himself. Ask him for feedback!!! Just say something like, "Tell me how you like it, Baby". That sounds a lot different than "I don't know what I'm doing", and is more likely to result in your learning exactly what it is that he DOES like.
Or ask him to put his hands on your hips and to guide you into doing it the way he likes.
Neither of those ways implies that you don't know what you're doing, and it kind of sounds like it's your sense of that and the ensuing embarrassment that's getting in the way of your enjoying it.
There's really no way that you possibly CAN know how to do it except by trial and error and by getting him to give his input!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I find going on top difficult as well, it's a question of finding a comfortable angle where it's not going to hurt ......... I really need the man to follow my lead rather than try to force things along at his pace.
Marah
Marah
When I was about 50 pounds heavier, I was very self consious being on top. Now I love it. I love having him touch me, massage my breasts, etc. I still like to finish with him on top though. But it is fun to do different positions.
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