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Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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Does desire affect orgasm ability?

Spiky
Spiky
I have always had a relatively high sex drive. I become aroused easily and I get very, very wet (people have commented on this). When I started having sex I would get so turned on I felt like I was going to burst right out of my skin. However despite all this, it took me a long time after becoming sexually active to come with a partner, and I'm 35 and I still can't come from intercourse. What's the deal with that? I knew a girl in high school who could come just by rubbing up against a person while making out with them. I know I was just as horny as her. Can anyone explain this?
deleted_user
deleted_user
women usually come by stimulating the clit. I can't come from intercourse either, unless I am the one doing it and keep pressure on the clitoris the whole time, while on top and my partner doesn't move. But, I can come from making out and humping someone too. The nerves that get a woman going are on the outside, not so much the inside.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah.. Especially if your surrounded by noise. It's all about concentration. Does your partner know about your g spot. You can get so many orgasm from him hitting that spot that you'll go crazy. Explore your body so you know whats going to get you off.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I also cannot orgasm from penetration. I generally have a low sex drive, and I think the higher being who created me forgot to give me a G spot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
When you ask does desire affect orgasm ability, I would have to say no, not really. However the stronger the desire for the partner I am with definitely affects how much I am aroused overall. I can have amazing sex with a really sexually attractive man without the orgasm. But desire also broke my heart many times. Ugh.
CarlaBentley
CarlaBentley
I can't cum from 'just' vaginal penetration and it's almost too difficult to cum that way even WITH clitoral stimulation. Too much like a chore. I CAN, however, cum from manual stimulation, oral sex, and from kissing combined with 'dry humping'.
My very favoite thing is to have the guy make me cum, by whatever means, and then fuck me, right away!!! That makes me feel like I'm still cumming, all through the fuck.
LunarAngel
LunarAngel
I agree with Carla! If my guy gives me oral or whatever and I cum and then we have sex right after...everything is so sensitive. I feel like I just keep cumming and cumming. It's great. Try it sometime!
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