
Female Sexual Issues Support Group
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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My x husband left me 2 years ago because of my low libido. It started probably 2 years after we were married. I think looking back now I was suffering from depression from a move that we made due to his job. I was in a new town and away from family. We would argue about it, but I guess I was naive to the fact that sex is that important to a man. We were so in love and I never thought he could stop loving me over that. He did buy educational videos (porn to me) to help spice your marriage, but they really didn't do anything for me, but made me realize I should see a doctor. Well, by that time 2wks later I found out I was pregnant with our 2nd baby. I knew my hormones would be out of wack, so I didn't see a doctor. I guess during my pregnancy he started having and affair and 3 months after the baby was born he left. He married the girl that he was having the affair with 5 months later. We were married 9 years and together a total of 10. I guess I just can't get over the fact that he stopped loving me like that. Is it possible for a man to stop loving his wife because of that? I guess I am just soo angry that he didn't even suggest counseling. He just gave up and went somewhere else. I don't understand how he could fall in love with her that easily. I guess I just wonder if he ever really loved me at all. But, I don't think I conjured up the love that I felt in my head. It has been 2 years now and I don't think I will ever experience a love that strong again. I pray that I will, but I am very discouraged. I would appreciate any advice and especially a male viewpoint. :)
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I realize that you did not take sex away from your husband to be mean but you must have realized that something was wrong. Taking sex away from someone that you love is a sure way to destroy that love. Please seek some help, not for your ex but for yourself and for your future.
He did try to improve the marriage by getting those tapes.
You could have talked to a doctor about the situation, even when you were pregnant.
On your profile page, you say that your argued about it all the time. You could have suggested counseling at any point in the marriage, too.
I don't mean to be harsh, but it sounds like you didn't consider his needs going unmet to be a significant problem within the marriage as long as he was willing to live with it, even though he would have liked more.
Do you think that you kind of minimized the problem and/or his unhappiness because you didn't want to change, yourself?
Good luck to you!!! My exhusband divorced me after 29 years of marriage and it was possible the most painful thing I have ever gone through in my life!!!
Take care!!!!
sex is a very powerful if not the most powerful instinct a man has. no one gets married for sex so his love was probably sincere. would he have stayed in the marriage if you hadnt cut him off?
I can tell you the answer to your question - YES. I am in that very situation today.. I love my wife, but my sexual needs are not being met... I've shared with her on multiple occasions that I'm not happy (see 20 year itch thread).
I'm not condoning his behavior. What he did was wrong, but you neglected him as well. Did you ever suggest counseling..? You played a part in the failed relationship as well, but the way he treated you was clearly wrong. I hope he's providing, financially and emotionally, for your kids. I say this often, but please resist the temptation to bash him in front of and to your kids. They will remember which parent did this when they're adults..