my first question is, have you ever had intercourse before? if not, it could be an involuntary constriction of your muscles responding to the penetration. i had this problem the first time i tried to have sex -- it just wouldn't go in. i didn't understand it at the time but it wasn't a problem the next time. have you tried sticking a dildo in there? see if you get the same pain when you do that. if you do, i would go see a gynecologist and tell them your problem. also, make sure you are very wet (i am assuming you are) anytime you try to stick anything in there. you might also have an unusual vaginal interior shape. your gynecologist coudl tell by examining you if this is the case. other than that... the women i've known who had the best first sex experiences were lucky because their partners were infinitely patient and weren't pressuring them.

For my ex-husband and me it was like hitting a brick wall. It took us a few tries before he could penetrate fully and it happened when I relaxed. If you're gonna be nervous, you'll tighten up. So...relax and enjoy the moment, it will be memorable.

I agree with the first reply see if you are recoiling from fear about having sex, or if your body just doesn't like being penetrated. If you can fit a dildo in fine after you have appropriately worked yourself up and are ready for it and you have no pain, then maybe you need more foreplay with your guy.

If you have pain no matter what you do it might be time to see a vulvar pain specialist. If you feel a raw burning at the entrance to your vagina it might be vulvar vestibulitis. If you feel something more internal it might be vaginismus or involuntary muscle spasms.

take care and try to find out what is wrong.

I have had this in one of my previous relationships. The firdst thing to ask, which no one has is, is this your first time? If so, the pain is normal and with slow steady loving attention, it will hurt a tad, but hen not. If it is not your first time, then it is most likely a condition that many many of us have had which I cant spell but it is called involuntary vagimismus. It means that you are UNconciously clenching your muscle and it will feel like being penetrated the first time. It happpens. The most important thing is for you to reassure your fiance that it is NOT him and that you do want him (if you do). You must also be very ready, lots of foreplay and lke many sex issues, the thing to try is to decide NOT to have penile intercourse, but just to "play". Take the pressure off,,like agree that for a whole weekend, no pneile intercourse. Use fingers, dildos, nothing, see if any of that hurts. If it does, then you must go see a doctor as you might have some infection or inflammation. If it is this involuntary Vag,,,; then you also talk to your doctor and they can give you exercises and possible meds for it. The key here is to try to relax, reassure each other that it is not about whether you want each other and FIND out what is going on.

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I've had this happen before if it had been awile since I had intercourse. You just need to relax your body, and have him "loosen" you up with his fingers or a dildo if you prefer that way. Just make sure you are relaxed and the pain should go away after the first 2 or 3 thrusts. If it still hurts after a few minutes, then you should see your gyno to see if you have any problem that is causing the pain.

Good luck!

Lubrication helps me.