Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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25 with sexual dysfunction

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I am 25 yrs old. I have a 2 yr old daughter, and since I gave birth I have had an extreemly low sex drive. It is now to the point where I don't have one at all. I live with my boyfriend (my daughters father) and we have been together for 4 years. We constantly argue about sex. It hurts everytime I have sex. I get dry almost right after penetration and the only position I can tolerate is missonary with me on the bottom. Whenever he brings up sex I get upset, and usually when we do have sex, I make him hurry up so he can please himself and I end up crying. I don't know what to do. I told my gyno about it, and she said that birth control and Zoloft are probably what is affecting me. I chose 1 to stop taking, so I have been off of birth control for 4 months. That didn't make a difference. I talked to my pc dr and she said that is to be accepted when taking any type of antidepressant. She didn't offer any type of advice or help. This is completely ruining my relationship and self esteem and I need help fast!!
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Go see a different Dr or a sex therapist and get the help you & your relationship deserve...
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I know where your coming from. Me and my hubby have the same problem. The best thing to do for the driness is get a really good lubricant. And im not talking KY. Thats made for doctores for a 5 min precedure. Get something Silicone based. It will last a long time and you will no longer hurt. Also there is this stuff from Pure Romance. (I use alot of there stuff and love it) you can order right online or find a consultant near you. Get this Hightner called Nimph-Niagra. It is made for females who are on meds that can lower there libido or make it go completely away. It works well. I have use that and one called X-Scream. There menthol based and air activated. So when you put it down below you begin to tingle and get aroused. And the more air that hits it the more you will feel. It is a life saver for me and my hubby. (also pure romance carries MANY different types of lubricants). Check it out, it cant hurt.
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I have a 1 yr old and my sex drive is at rock bottom. It doesnt seem important anymore but to my husband its an important part of a relationship. So I have sex just to please him and I to end up feeling empty and crying. Its caused a lot of problems in out relationship too. I dont have any advice for you because I dont know what to do myself. I do know that getting off of birth control helped a little. I took antidepressants for a while also. I stopped taking them and that didnt help. I am here to talk to if you need someone.
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At least you guys are willing to acknowledge there is a problem and open to help for it. That alone is highly commendable - I wish my stbx had been as willing.
Best-
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I have found that after not taking Zoloft anymore, I feel so different. It isnt completely back to normal, but it is well on its way.
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I am 25 and had the exact same problem..though I don't have children. i was put on Zoloft for panic disorder..Things were great for about 8 monthsm then i stopped having a sex drive very suddenly. My b/f and I fought about it at length many times..he even thought I was cheating! anyway I decided I would get off the zoloft and see what happened. Things are getting better. It's been about 3 weeks and I can see a difference, I feel like I have feelings again and urges.
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Congrats to both of you! Happy for u!
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Sounds familiar. I can tell you that going off the pill helps ever so slightly (I now have an IUD...GREAT device btw). But I have gone to numerous gynos and no one has helped me. The only thing they recommended was either a topical steriod that would grow facial hair or a therapist. I don't know...I just don't think a therapist is the answer. But anyway, I wanted to share my story in that you are not alone. I have two kids and no sex drive and yes, the only way I can tolerate it is missionary. One question for you? do you have a poor self image of yourself? or do you see yourself as more "motherly" than "sex kitten-ish". god knows I do...
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hi...

can't really help but just wrote for some advice very similar to yours...

I am only 25 to and me and DH are constantly arguing about sex...
I had a baby 11months ago...and although I had big probs with sex before hand due to endo (miracle I had a baby to be honest) it has become much worse since...
I'm also on the pill not sure if this has affected it anyway...maybe I should stop taking it?
like you my relationship is at rock bottom...and my self esteem also..
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so...what I've put together is that after taking zoloft for a long period of time, your sex drive goes down the drain (rather than all of your depression) So shouldn't doctors warn you of this? Thanks Doc.



i'm glad you're doing better now though!
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