Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I am still in my marriage. I have been with him for 17 years but married for 10 of those. We stayed together because I got pregnant. And we now have four children. I KNOW I am not happy. I KNOW I dont want to be with him anymore. I KNOW my children see the unhappiness (although we do not fight in front of them). So WHY cant I leave? WHY is it so hard to make that first step?
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Because you love your child and do not want to cause them pain so you live in pain.
pantherizfree
Also, fear of the unknown might be keeping you there. As in, better the devil you know, type of thinking. Good luck and I hope all turns out right for you and your children.
deleted_user
Its hard because doing anything that will hurt people you love is hard. If you dont want to be with him anymore, then you should go. It will hurt your children only a short time if you leave him but it will hurt them for a lifetime if you stay together. Children are very resilient but if they are subjected to this unhappiness for a few more years it will be harder for them to know what a healthy relationship is. Your children wont hate you for leaving him if thats what your afraid of. They may say it or even act that way but its only because they are scared of what is going to happen next and that is only natural. Do what is best for you and your children. Its not healthy for them or you to be in an unhappy marriage. I hope things work out for you and good luck.
deleted_user
You need to leave him if there is absolutly no feelings because your children need to know what love is. my parents were divorced and i am actually happy that they did because i see that they were not happy. think of it this way leave for the kids because if you stay you never know what is going to happen. My husband and his ex cannot talk even about their daughter they always disagree before they split they could talk about anything, but they didn't love each other. they just tried to stay together for their daughter.
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