Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
well i went about a month without seeing my brother and we met upo last week for coffe at tim hortens and well all those feeling came back for the both of us and i thought we would be okay well he drove me home he came up to my apartment and we started making out like teenagers and i said to him we cant do this again if this is going to persist to happen i cant see you anymore i asked him to leave but now i cant stopp thinking about it again
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Remember that you met this man as an adult and to force your 'human nature' into subordination and refuse the chemistry you are feeling for him could be more damaging and prolong the situation.
You feel what you have done and the feelings your currently having as immoral or disgusting...Instead could you seek a professionals opinion, and accept that what you have done, and are feeling is normal.
Of course if you had known this man as your biological brother, and you had grown with him from infancy to adulthood you would not have the feelings you do now because experience and a different knowledge of him would be ingrained in you...
You can't create that...
Possibly once you accept what has happened, understand your feelings, accept that he is a 'man' to you and not yet a 'brother', you could then move forward without judging yourself and focus on building a familial bond with this man. Basically, deal with what has happened, understand why it was possible in the first place, and move forward loving yourself and formulate a new basis to your relationship with him.
Again I'll say the both of you see each other as a man and a woman (physically)...
You perceive this as inappropriate behavior because you 'know' (the brain) you are biologically related....
This likely wouldn't be happening if in fact you grew up with each other and had different experience and knowledge of each other...
Far be it from me or anyone else to tell you as adults that you can not continue with this behavior if it truly is what you want to do...If it is truly what you want to do and you can participate in a sexual relationship with him healthily (not beating yourself up for it)...do it, to it....
If you absolutely want to stop this behavior...seek professional help, understand why it happened, understand that you are not 'sick' and move forward with tools in place to prevent it from ever happening again.