I am in the process of learning how to properly respond to my parent's toxcicity. I still very much try to convince them to see things from a healthy standpoint, but that only creates a great deal of chaos and in the end, ends up crushing me. Our family dynamic is so dysfunctional - but the dysfunction was always put off by them as *MY* being dysfunctional. Well, I am no longer dysfunctional, but they haven't changed - at all, and they are not responding well at all to my change, infact they are using it against me. They say that changing was what *I* needed, but that does not mean that anyone (specifically them) want to hear of what was needed/worked for me, because that is me and they are not me. And that creates a great deal of anger on my part, for which I tend to become defensive and reactive. As long as things seem very smooth and our relationship is happy-go-lucky, then things are really good between us.. But if any "conflict" is braught up, all goes downhill, and ultimately I am the one who is in this emotional struggle/battle. It's this cycle that goes on and on. And I seem to keep backing up against a wall with this one. I am in therapy, have been for years, and am trying to work on this - but it's just frustrating and anxiety provoking. I recently got the book "Toxic Parents" - but have not started reading it yet. I could use any feedback, thoughts, support, advice, etc. Thanks!
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