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to devoice or not to devoice..

deleted_user
deleted_user
I've been married 4.5 years, we never have sex (well maybe once a month) we don't talk. we don't really hang out. I don't think I'm attricted to him any more, and I don't remember what I was attricted to in the first place. I think I'm traped and yet I'm comfortable and he keeps a roof over my head. but I'm starting to think thats not enough. I want to be loved and happy. I don't remember how to do that. sorry if this is stupid. any advice would be welcomed! thanks for reading.
deleted_user
deleted_user
my friend is goingthrough the same situation...married high school sweetheart....been married for 5 years almost....2 years ago she started to have affairs....she feels they have lost theyre spark and they are roomates more than anything...the advice i give her is its okay when you realize it over...you live once and sometimes its just not there...i hope you find what you are looking for..i dont knnow if kids are involved, but maybe therapy would work to try and sort things out...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ask him out on a date. Talk to him and feel free to act like you're not married. You might not find what it was you were attracted to in the first place but maybe you'll find something else. Act like you're starting over and have all those introductory conversations "What's your favorite color?" "What do you want to be doing in 5 years?"

Just because you guys have been together for a while now doesn't mean that things like this won't work. Try new things in your sex life - experiment to see what brings some excitement. If you habitually get intimate with lights on/off, maybe try a couple candles around the room. Sure it might sound cheesey but it's new.

Routine is the brain's enemy, stir things up!
JennS
JennS
Try some counseling first. Maybe you can find what brought yourselves together originally.
ibrou
ibrou
I have being married for 28 years 17years age I had affair all because some showed me love that my wife did not show me every we had arguments she would bring her up . The wife thought putting tea on the table was more important then her (wife) put on weight losing her job be lazy . We Are devoicing and have meet someone newthey tell al, about them selfs and I do they run off
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
This OP is nine years old....It may be better to start a new post ibrou
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