I am the mother of 5 grown children. My daughters are my reason for living. It used to be all my children but I made the mistake of raising my sons to always put their spouses first in their lives...that puts me on the back burner. I'm ok on the back burner as long as I'm still included. 2 of my sons live far from me and my youngest sons (34) lives 5 minutes away. He has been married for 10 years and I have always bent over backwards to make my DIL feel she was very much part of my family. It seems that the only time she has time for me is if she needs something from me. At first, it was her way around my son, then once they moved in together-money to cover her spending habits, and now babysitting. I love my grandson and nothing makes me happier than spending solo time with him so bribery doesn't matter to me...just her. She seems to need to be in control of everyone and every situation and if she isn't given that control, we are neglected or ignored. We were always a strong family (she has tried for 15 years to break us down) but too many disagreements from her with all family members has made my son feel he is in the middle. I do not put him in the middle because I just back off and keep my mouth shut. I do not want to loose contact with my son or grandson but I feel I need to stay in the background to avoid negative situations. I even went to a psychiatrist for help who put me on medication and told me to let him go. I wanted to know how to handle their situation without loosing my son or grandson---not to hear to let him go so I let the psychiatrist go instead. Any suggestion would be welcome. Thanks
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