I wish I could go head to head with my brother in law. The man is a materialistic, demanding, controlling, abusive, pushy, persuasive, the kind that does not take No for an answer. He will hound people for hours, days and weeks on end. In one incident, he was known to have dragged a family friend out of bed in the middle of the night. He fought with the man on his lawn and (not kidding) held hin in a choke hold because he did not Honor their Agreement to work out each morning at 5am. He didn't let go until the man agreed to get dressed and not 're-nig' on their deal to work out every day. My brother in law will politely brush his victims off Saying See, that wasnt so bad was it? If you would have just agreed with me to begin with, it wouldnt have been so hard for you. But dont worry, Im gonna take care of you! I just needed you IN. This brother in law has filed a lawsuit against his own brother for $60,000. He claims that my husband owes him the money for Unpaid Bills. But the real reason: My husband refuses to submit to his brothers abuse and control anymore. Years ago, my husband was in a wheelchair, living off of workers comp and welfare and had his 2 young sons dropped on his doorstep. His brother (as his brother tells the story) Came to his rescue my husband out of the 'rat hole'/ 'bait camp' one room efficiency in CA. He moved my husband and his kids to TX, took him under his wing and said he was going to Fix Him. My husband agreed, thinking it was best for his 2 kids, following his brothers lead (and control) for almost 5 years. Now rehabilitated and walking and working on his own, He earns a decent income as a trader at a major oil and gas company in a high rise in Hou. Far from the bait camp in CA he was 'rescued from'. Being very grateful and thankful, he felt obligated to help his brother, contribute to his Plans but 2 years of 'choke holds' and his brothers tactics had taken their toll. My husband grew tired of trying to say NO - and agreing to everything his brother wanted even if it was against his better judgement. As with any victim, it's easier to agree with controllers by just giving in. He endured many painstaking hours, nights and phone calls until my husband agreed his brothers plans to buy and invest. Listen to me, I got it covered, Don't say no, I know what you can afford, it's a great plan, trust me, do it for the kids, the family...All resulted in: Vacations homes, stocks (worth Thousands!), a boat, all luxuries he knew he could not afford. 2 years ago (before he met me) My husband just work up and wondered how he got to this place? Just a few years ago, my husband was struggling in a wheelchair, on welfare, in an efficiency and scrounging to pay utilities and groceries. How is it that, he earns a decent income, lives in a beautiful home now but still can't afford groceries and gas money, but can afford the luxuries his brother is enjoying? If it weren't for my 2nd income, I do not know how he would manage. Just like I didn't understand how he was managing before I moved in, I always asked. He just said: I do the best I can with what I got. Little by little, he made the decision to disconnect himself from those transactions. He signed over the deed, removing his name from the vacation home, without asking for a penny back that he invested. The brother was upset and then asked for the boat too. So, he transferred the title/registration over as well. Furious by this time last year, the brother demanded and my husband agreed to and allowed the FULL withdrawal of thousands from a Trade account they both shared, without leaving a penny behind. My husband didnt even blink an eye. He was exhausted and wanted out and it was the price he was willing to pay for his freedom, he did not want (nor did he see) a dime out of any of his efforts both physical and financial from the property or investments he signed over to his brother. He wanted nothing more than to regain control of his life. The 2 brothers have not been on speaking terms in over a year. Just when we thought it was over. My husband was slapped with a lawsuit last month for $60,000 for Unpaid Bills. The suit is filled with transactions his brother did make on my husband's behalf years ago. However, just because he wrote the check does not mean he paid for them! Remember long ago when his brother had taken him under his wing and said he would take care of him. He said. "Dont worry about anything, Bro, I got you covered" Well I guess those were conditional promises. The suit does not even hold water, because there is no mention of installment payments made and savings he gave to his brother to pay for those 'transactions' we are now being sued for. When my husband came to TX on crutches and with no credit (not one credit card at Age 36!) and not even a bank account. Once he started working in TX, He began saving from day one. All under his brothers control until 2 years ago. For the years his brother was in control of everything including passwords to bank account and transfers of money and transactions. I am telling you his Brother Controlled EVERYTHING. Now that my husband is being sued, he's forced to research and request bank records and copies to prove that payments were made to pay for those transactions that his brother supposedly "loaned" him, according to documents filed. Sadly, my husband has found more money that his brother swindled out of his bank accounts than he ever realized. It is sickening to see how much my husband was taken advantage of. Can you imagine how he feels. His heart is broken and he compares his ordeal to being being raped. He said "No." But he did it anyway. This has emotionally damaged him and even effected our relationship tremendously. I am torn now between, sacrificing my needs as a wife and partner who misses and needs her husband. He is in denial of needing professional help to cope with the stress of his losses (not necessarily his financial loss) We could care less. But he has been stripped of his manhood, bullied and negatively compaigned against to family and friends by his own brother via email and phone calls. I am to the point now, where my own privacy has been invaded and I don't know how much longer I can hang on? I want us to find a quick solution / closure, so we can move on with our Own Life and I want my husband back. I just don't know where to start and feel helpless.
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