My ex and I have been divorced for almost 20 years and the kids (four) are now all grown with children and lives of their own. I need y' all's advice about something though. I'll try not to bore you with a lot of details just give you the basics. Of the four children the oldest and youngest have moved out of state and have a pretty good relationship with both me and their father. The middle two a boy and a girl live nearby and their relationship with me is good, but their relationship with their father is rocky, to put it mildly. He and I have almost no contact whatsoever and when we have to be together are civil to each other. My question is that when he has a conflict with either of the two who live nearby he calls the out of state children and talks to them about it. He talks negatively about the two he doesn't get along with at other times, also. I feel he is trying to put a wedge between his children and undermine their relationship with each other. Should I confront him on this? Should I talk to the children about this? Or should I just keep quiet? What would you do? Opinions and suggestions, please.
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