sorry to hear about that it does suck...seriously your dads girlfriend must be pretty stupid to not ask or find out first? I havent had thathappen to me before but i have had the age thing happen. I dont have a lot of contact with my father and its like he doesnt even care anyways or i dont exsist in his world because as far as he is concerned im still 16 im 20!!!!!! im not allowe da bf im not allowed to drink etc ra ra ra because he hasnt got a clue nor do i think he even cares..it does suck and it does make u feel worthless but...in the end now i dont care i let him think what he likes and id o what i like when i like!!

Hope things get better with u and yours dads girlfrind if i were u i would just speak my mind and tell them both what i really think!

Yeah, I'm sorry bout that. I don't talk to my "Father" much either. He talks to my sisters and brothers all the time, but I'm the one left out.. I have confronted him and I got the all famous answers, "...." or "... I don't know kiddo."

It drives me up the wall! She did ask about his kids, and he didn't apparently even MENTION me.. =/ She doesn't speak good English, so it's not like I could really talk to her anyway. I rarely see them.

Your dad sounds like mine. My father had alot of trouble empathising. He just had no capacity to understand how things he did, and his actions could POSSIBLE effect me! It was ludicrous. My father got so bad, to the point it was no longer healthy for me to have him in my life, he was just such a negative influence on my self esteem that i cut him out of my life all together. He betrayed me on a major level though and was also an abusive alcoholic...so i' certainly not saying cut your dad out of your life. I wish i had a father, i grew up so close to my dad when i was little, and i was always his princess, but he broke my heart. It hurts that i have no idea if he's still alive or not, or if he's still living in australia, or anything about him! And it sucks that my dad doesn't even know i'm having a baby, but he chose that relationship. Anyway, i think in your case, your dad needs to know how his actions are hurting you. Like i said, alot of the time, things that are apparently small to them, can totally break our hearts, and they just have no idea. I tried telling my dad thousands of times and he just never got it. I think you should try telling your dad that he breaks your heart when he does things like FORGET to mention you to his girlfriend and all that. Let him know that he makes you feel like your not valid, like your worthless and forgotten. He probably just doesn't realize its such a big thing for you and may get his arse into gear if you let him know. I really hope everything goes well for you, i'd hate for anyone to have to go through what i did with my father. Love and best wishes sweetie. x

There are fathers, and then there are sperm donors. You're not worthless, honey, he has some growing up to do.

sounds strange to me, but i do know you're not worthless or forgotten here. hope things get better