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Regrets

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Does anyone every wonder about a past love or regret not trying harder? I have this huge hole in my heart and regret that I screwed up and made some wrong choices and i lost the love of my life. Now don't get me wrong I met a man and have been married for 5 1/2 years a do love my husband. But part of me is still in love with an old flame or the thought of an old flame and i wonder if i made the right choices or if i really screwed up? does anyone else have these type of thoughts or go through this type of second guessing and regrets????? If so how do i move on or get pst this.. these regrets hit me every few months and stay with me for a couple of weeks. So that's a couple of weeks of regrets, second guessing and missing an old friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Mine is a little different. I met this girl 24 years ago. Went out a few times and had sex once. She told me she was pregnant. I tried to see her after she told me. She did not want to have anything to do with me. Iwent on with my life . Than about a year and the 1/2 I looked her up. Saw the child and still getting my grove. But her husband found out and I went back to the girlfriend I was staying with. He told me to stay away or he would shoot me. So I did. I married girlfriend and moved to GA. Got divorced than moved back to NJ. Got married again for 16 years with 2 daughters. There is not a day in 24 years I have not thought about the child ( Kayla ). Now I am trying to find them without them knowing. I want to see her before I say something. I realy dont know if it is my child but for 24 years I have always wondered.
Barr62
Barr62
I do big time i dated a girl from elementry school 6th grade threw my Sr year in Hi school, family issues ( i moved) and then we kinda drifted apart but i broke a Promise , to this date i like to find her and Apologize to let her know, How sorry i am and that, for over 25 yrs i always thought about her, but we both are Married , i see her Brother and dad now and then and her sister so i know she knows im back in town
deleted_user
deleted_user
What I think about is "how I felt." The relationship all brand new and wonderful and the sadness that it ended so soon. But I do not delude myself with thinking that after I had gotten to know him better I would have felt the same or even more intense... If I am honest with myself, I realize we were both in lust and had not been in the relationship even long enough to say we were good friends much less in love.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think if you are happy with your husband right now, you wouldn't even be thinking about this other old flame. It just tells me that maybe you are not as happy as you think you are with your current husband.

Have you thought about calling up your old boyfriend and having a chat with him. This may put to rest the way you feel. And if it just fuels the fire, then well, maybe you should do some reevaluating of your current relationship.

Good luck.
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