
Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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I'm 18 and for as long as I can remember my Mum has always looked down on me and given me nasty looks and made subtle but nasty comments about my weight.
I have a BMI of 22.9 so I'm not over weight but I know I'm not skinny.
My Mum is really small because she runs a lot and she chews and spits her food.
I use to be really active and under weight too when I was younger. I played lots of different sports and ran. When I was 14 I was in a car crash and injured my back and neck and I was told I'd never walk again. I also had an injury to my ankle from running. I became very depressed because I couldn't be as active as I use to be.
During this time I went through other things. I was raped and sexually abused by two different men. One who was a family friend. I tried to speak to my Mum and my best friend at the time but they didn't want to listen.
At one stage (when my Mum told me she didn't want me anymore because I was too depressed and making her life difficult) I was sent to live with my father. This made me even more upset and I over ate a bit and put on about 40lb.
My Mum then decided a year later that she wanted me back so I've moved back with my Mum. I've lost nearly all of the 40lb but she still calls me fat.
My Mum also treats me like a I'm 14. She wont let me go and spend time with my friends. I have to be home by 9.30 and she came in and yelled at me for being on the computer at 12.15am on a friday night.
I do well at school too.
I'm sorry this is long, but I don't know what to do. There is no one else in my family I can live with, but I am moving to University in a different city in 85days. She's getting worse and worse and I don't think I can last these next few months.
Please help me.
I have a BMI of 22.9 so I'm not over weight but I know I'm not skinny.
My Mum is really small because she runs a lot and she chews and spits her food.
I use to be really active and under weight too when I was younger. I played lots of different sports and ran. When I was 14 I was in a car crash and injured my back and neck and I was told I'd never walk again. I also had an injury to my ankle from running. I became very depressed because I couldn't be as active as I use to be.
During this time I went through other things. I was raped and sexually abused by two different men. One who was a family friend. I tried to speak to my Mum and my best friend at the time but they didn't want to listen.
At one stage (when my Mum told me she didn't want me anymore because I was too depressed and making her life difficult) I was sent to live with my father. This made me even more upset and I over ate a bit and put on about 40lb.
My Mum then decided a year later that she wanted me back so I've moved back with my Mum. I've lost nearly all of the 40lb but she still calls me fat.
My Mum also treats me like a I'm 14. She wont let me go and spend time with my friends. I have to be home by 9.30 and she came in and yelled at me for being on the computer at 12.15am on a friday night.
I do well at school too.
I'm sorry this is long, but I don't know what to do. There is no one else in my family I can live with, but I am moving to University in a different city in 85days. She's getting worse and worse and I don't think I can last these next few months.
Please help me.
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And I agree about the counselling. Sometimes the hardest thing is feeling like no one wants to listen to you - like your problems don't matter. Having someone to talk to is critical, I think.
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She cannot accept that I am so happy the way I am. I am like you - my BMI adds up fine - it always has - It's just I have a more 'feminine' shape now - curves and all. My mother is the opposite and feasts on an orange every other day.
I failed my first year of college. Because unknown to my mother I was on the verge of an eating disorder - throwing up and starving myself. But hey. I looked 'great' so she didn't mention anything. I got depressed and didn't bother with work.
The following year I read a book that changed my whole perspective on my body and attitude to life. I learnt to enjoy food again and just be happy through my personality. Now I am an A grade pupil and am the happiest I have ever been. My mum doesn't care for my happiness. Quite frankly. I think that my figure is of more importance to her at this moment.
I was crying before - thinking - God she's right. But your story has given me strength. Thankyou for that. And congratulations on whatever your A Level results turn out to be. I'm not worried - I worked hard! :P
The reason why I worked so hard throughout high school was to ensure that I would get to Uni so I could move away! lol :P
"This is not about YOU, this is about HER. Everyone acts and reacts from their own paradigm (whatever their own world is for them). You mom has some issues around weight and is projecting them on to you.
It may be hard, but just ignore her. Everytime she makes a comment or looks at you a certain way, remember - it is about her own internal hell and has nothing to do with you.
Stay STrong.