I grew up seeing my father only periodically. And until the Summer of 07, I just dealt with it. But in efforts to be a mature adult, I called my dad up and said that I would like to spend some time with him before I moved to TX (from WI) for school. He agreed. And everything was great at first. I even got along great with his new wife. Then, during the 1st week of Dec, his wife called me and told me that they were separated. That made me angry for 2 reasons. One: I wanted them to be together because I actually LIKED this woman. And Two: because my dad wasn't the one telling me about the split. Anyway, about a week and a half later it was Christmas break and I made my way back to WI and stayed for 2 weeks. The first week was fine. The 2nd week was going great until the day before it was time for me to leave. I went to my dad's Sat night to spend a little time with him before I left. Towards the end of my time there, I asked him Why he didn't want me to communicate with my stepmom (he told me that prior to the visit) He got angry and began to verbally abuse me (he went as far as saying that I was a mistake) and then proceeded to kick me out of his house. Immediately after leaving his home, I went to my stepmom's. I stayed there a while and we talked things over, and she lifted me up and comforted me, and all the things she was supposed to be doing. I guess what I'm confused about is if I should listen to my dad and severe the relationship with my stepmom. But in my opinion, I'm old enough to have relationships with anyone whom I think positively impacts my life, therefore, that's a totally irrational and immature request . So now I think I'm just goin to have to take a break from my father. But although I need a break from him, I don't want it to go as far as me not speaking to him for years at a time. I mean, I do kind of want him around for major life events (i.e. college grad, wedding, baptisms, etc.) I suppose I've posted this on here just to get a comforting word from another person (other than my stepmom).
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