I also buy additional groceries and help pay for things like the girls dance lessons.My husband passed away three years ago and since then I have spent the majority of time at my daughter's home. There is a separate bath and bedroom for me. I pay her a monthly fee for the privilege. I also buy additional groceries and help pay for things like the girls dance lessons. To help with Financial issues I rent out my own home as an Airbnb for much of the time. This forces me to stay at my daughters home more than I would really like because she emotionally abuses me. I feel like I am never allowed to express an opinion and that nothing I do is ever good enough for her. Today was a prime example. In order to get my car in my name, I had to get an attorney to notarize some papers that my daughter and I both signed.
The subject of succession/probate came up. Daughter wanted to know if she would have to go through succession twice (since we have not gone through it yet for my husband) when I die and have to pay fees twice. She and her husband both seem very concerned about the financial aspect. He even suggested that I put the car in her name so that they will not have to pay to have it changed again in the future. We are talking about a $68 fee for a title change. They are very concerned about my dying expense even though I have life insurance.
This evening my granddaughters wanted to chew gum. Their dad does not want them to chew Gum and thinks it is totally bad. My daughter doesn't seem to mind but said it might cause TMJ. I decided to research it. I had told them that I read that chewing gum helps stimulate memory. I wanted to make sure I was correct in what I said so I found some info online and I was trying to tell daughter about it including that it does not cause TMJ. She was not interested in hearing my comments and said I was arguing with her and her husband. Accused me of starting a fight and walked out of my room to go to bed.So I wrote her a text.
"I have NEVER said anything in a discussion that you agreed with. If I learn some information pertaining to what we discussed and I want to share it with you, you consider it an argument. If a friend were to write to you, "I found out some information the other day about what we were discussing/arguing and thought I would share with you," You would not feel that it was an issue. With me it always is. I have been trying very hard to be as agreeable as I possibly can be without totally keeping my mouth shut in order to avoid your anger/ disapproval. I have a reminder on my finger not to speak unkindly and not to argue. I did not realize tonight would be an argument when it shouldn't be. You wonder why I text. Really? With two active young girls, it is very hard to get a word in here and once they go to bed you're asleep.
Y'all don't be too concerned about inheritance when I die. There will be adequate money to bury me and help you with the house. Funny that I never questioned my mama about such things. Her bring alive and happy were more important than some "inheritance." I think that I will make out a will so the property goes to my girls."
She replied with a text saying that I was being ugly, threatening and hostile.
This is very hurtful to me. I try to stay out of her way as much as possible. I spend much of my time in my room with the door closed because she takes everything I say the wrong way and then accuses me of being argumentative.I often cook dinner and I'm volunteer to help with things around the house but she usually dismisses me.
Am I missing something? Is my text to her abusive or threatening? I am just about at my wits end.
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Hi guys, it’s me Missy. I’ve been absent from the group for about a little over 2 months which is probably the longest I been missing since I joined the group in 2016. Physically, mentally, emotionally ect. Ive had an extremely terbulant & well ..... really have no words for the last couple months. In & out hospital & Almost went impatient but well it’s really long story. I still may have...