Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
my brother and i were great friends growing up but when i was bout nine we went though a lot and he got mean very mean.my mom had her own problems and thought it was normal siblings fighting.for a while i had two stepbrothers so the torture was x3.but any way my brother is not as bad as he use to be but he sometimes just freaks and starts yelling and arugeing with my mom.then he will go into his room and we wont see him for days and when he comes out he so freaking nice that it creeps me out.my mom and i think there is something wrong with him.he does stupid childlike things.like calling my mom 6 times when she leaves the house.he will wait to eat till my mom comes home bcause he donts want to eat alone (i can understand that i guess)but i tell mom she needs to cut the cord. he will do weird things like put his smelly feet on you for some reason he finds that very funny and if you dont do what he wants like ride dirtbikes with him he gets very angry.i just treat him like hes my little brother cause its makes life easier to cater to him.i just need help i guess i get sick of feeling like hes the faviote because we do whatever he wants so he donts freakout.he use to scare me and still does sometimes.he can be very nice you can fight like normal but somethings just trigger it.you have to be very careful and watch what you say.we are hopeing he will finsh his college courses and get a job and move out.i just want somebody to talk to about it because it drives me crazy.i have enough issuse without him on top screaming and yelling
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Your brother sounds like he's over 18, so really if he is that big of a problem technically your mother could kick him out. The things you describe don't really make it sound like your brother has a mental disorder, it just sounds like your brother is a selfish bully who is inconsiderate of other people's space and feelings. When you want to do something with him that is an activity of YOURS, I would say to him...."If you do this will me, I'll go do your thing with you later". As far as the screaming and yelling abuse, well, nobody deserves that. Sounds like he needs a taste of his own medicine. As far as calling your mom 6 times, he may just be very attached to your mom still (I've seen grown adults with severe attachment to their mothers).
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hi my mom is very different when it comes to me and my brother.she has always put me and my brother first when it comes to anything even her boyfriends.there is no way she would kick my brother out.she has told him if he keeps freaking out he would have to leave but she will never do it.she donts want to be alone.so she will never send my brother away but she might lose me becuase i cant take much more of it and im going to be 18 soon and be on ss.so ill be able to move out.im hopeing she sees the light and relize that she will always have me.but i wont be close by if hes around or donts start acting his age.
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It sounds like my sister and your brother would be a perfect match. Well maybe not she is 40. It doesn't get any better and your mom is never going to get rid of him unless she put her foot down. Since he is in college, he knows that acting like that is not going to get him a date or a job. So my guess is that he only acts that way at home. He is going to act that as long as the behavior is welcomed. Remember while your'e caught in the middle, that God is able and change will come. I hope and pray that his behavior improves as he matures.
Catharsis
I understand somewhat how you feel (my brother acts weird and is abusive, and he's 31...). Honestly, I think it does sound like he has a mental disorder of sorts, particularly his attachment to your mom and his disappearing for several days. My brother, he's such an ass but my family is scared he won't be able to function on his own or he'll go nuts or something. So my dad won't kick him out. Frustrating. If you're close to 18 and can move out soon, just hang in there until you can. Try to stay outside of the house as much as possible so you're not around your toxic family (this is what my counsellor suggests for me, since right now I'm not able to move out due to finances and school).
Catharsis
I should add that you should try to help your brother out, maybe suggest counselling. But if he's not willing to do it, it's not your fault. Your concern should be for your own wellbeing in the meantime.
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