I\'ll try to keep this brief. I\'m 41 and my parents divorced when I was 16. It was and has always been very ugly between them. Recently (june 11, 2006) my father died. She had been seemingly supportive of me during his illness. Then in July, my niece went to florida to visit my mom (her husband and her sister). Well, they thought it would be funny to joke about my dad\'s death. They joked that I should put my dad\'s ashes along with my cat\'s ashes (who died a week later) in the cat litter box!!!!!! Well, other than one phone call telling her how upset I was, and she hung up on me, I haven\'t spoken to her since. It\'s been about 2 months. I miss talking to her, but I just can\'t forgive her. I knew she hated my dad, but by mentioning my cat, she demonstrated that she knows nothing about me and what\'s important to me (I have no kids). My sister nor her kids have spoken to her since either. In fact, out of 4 kids, none of us are speaking to her right now. (The others are different stories.) I\'m at a loss of what to do. Like I said, I miss talking to her, but how can I forgive her for saying something that was beyond crass and tactless and hurtful? I\'m confused, terribly hurt, and very angry at her for doing/saying that. I know I only have one mother, but that doesn\'t necessarily mean having a relationship with her would be the healthy thing to do. Comments, questions, advice? Melissa/Hatmaker
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