Your husband may be kind but he sounds weak. It should be him that puts an end to all of this. He will have to be clear and firm.

I so feel for you and I see this type of thing happening to myself in the future and pray that it doesn't.

Setting boundaries is the main thing and you HAVE to do it quick or it's over. But he has to be with you or it won't work. What a crappy situation to be in. I'm so so sorry you are dealing with this right now. You DO NOT need this at 9 months pregnant.

i agree with you both! Bella, your absolutely right! when it comes to his mommy and daddy he's weak. he looks at all of the things they "have done for us" in the past, and wont give in. its almost like he feels because they were so young when they had him and they sacrificed everything for him that he owes them in a way...and the sad thing is his mother knows that, and she uses her kids in a way, which pisses me off! its not her sons place to bail them out all the time! his parents are 40 and 38, they should be better off then they are now, and im sorry that they arnt but i can't go into debt and be a bad parent to my child becuase they screwed up their lives. Eliza, you are also right. i cant deal with this bs at 9 months pregnant, thta why i gottasquash it now! i know me and my DH will probably be helping them move when they decide they are becuase that always how it works someone in the family moves everyone helps--except me im not lifting a thing! but i appreciate you both of ryour imput! anymore advice feel free to add. i think what it comes down to is i dont wanna make him feel like a bad preson, i just want him to know you cant help someone who wont help themselves and i wont go into debt for his parents. how do i do that?

Mother-in-law for sale? Hell, I'm trying to give mine away!!!! Just a joke,( not really) Anyway, I understand we need to honor our parents, but that doesn't mean parent them, at our own risk. I have a feeling that when the baby comes, your husband will realize that his daughter is his first priority. I don't think he will be taking diapers or food out of her mouth. When a dad sees his baby, especially a daughter, it has an impact. Tell your husband that although his parents will be close, you want him to understand that you will need your "alone" time to bond with the baby, and you will need his help and support to do that. Tell him your fears, about your mother-in-law crowding you, and monopolizing him. Definitely set boundaries ASAP.

Yes, I know what you mean by setting boundaries. My husband can't speak up either, at all. It's really wierd. He thinks his mother will break or something. So, I've had to and now they probably hate me. It happens.

To be sane though, you have to have boundaries and privacy, or you will go insane. I hope your husband does speak up. He does not owe his parents. It's their job to bring him up. My husband feels obligated to his mother to be there for his messed up family, because he is the oldest one and their father was abusive. So he feels the need to go easy on his siblings, cause no one ever did. What a headache and burden his mother makes him feel guilty for if he doesn't.

Keep bailing them out and you'll keep having to.

I am with you girl.If we could only pick our in-laws.I love my husband with all my heart but the in-laws can go if I had the chance.